Saturday, I had talked to Mom about doing her laundry. I thought she understood that I would pick it up on Mondays after work and bring it back Tuesdays after work. she repeated after me the routine. Seemed like it was going to work.
Last night, I couldn't sleep. I have intermittent insomnia, not a big deal. I decided to stay home from work anyway. This morning she called all in a PO'd. "I thought you'd be over here by now to pick up the laundry!" I told her, "Remember, I told you I'd be there at 4:30?" "Oh, I didn't think you worked today." What would she have done if I actually had been at work? <Sigh> She'll get it eventually.
My aunt died at almost 101. By the time she did, my cousins were psychologically worn out, and one of them is a psychologist. I was the sentimental visitor.
I've talked before about my own situation, my mother having Alzheimer's, with me the only child/single woman in my late twenties. But this is different, you folks recently posting have mothers fairly with it, fairly far along in years.
Swimpy, how about one of those marker boards, where you can leave an approximate time.. with perhaps a weasel note.
just musing.
osso, That's a great idea. I think there might even be on laying around at the office. I'm planning to get her kitchen cleaned out and streamlined a bit anyway. That would be the appropriate time to introduce a new feature. She uses a wall calendar now to organize her life, so I think she'd take to a message board pretty easily.
Mother has had some troubles with her eyes again.
She had had on both eyes been successfully operated (eye cataract).
Actually, she needed glasses afterwards, but was content with her abilities to see verything clear again, even been able to read the paper ... So, after having twear them nearly a lifelong, she didn't want them anymore.
A couple of months ago, she got what looked like inflammation, a rash or a skin fungus. It was, however, after consulting our ophthalmologist, only the thin skin, which couldn't hold the eyes (and what else is in there) properly any more.
We couldn't explain it to her, she didn't understand it, but complained about "getting blind"/"seeing double" etc.
Finally, I decided to visit the specialist again.
Sh!t! Obviously she had rubbed especially on her left eye so often/heavily that the lense slipped a tiny bit down. And then anyother tiny bit. Then a bit more ...
The doctor said, the lens might be down before the operation date (next weel Wednesday). It really looks like it.
Opposite to all previous dates at various doctors, now mother, however, showed an immense fear ... to die.
Today, we had been at the family doctor for blood control (not the regular - which is done every quarter of a year - but for the anaesthetist).
Yesterday, I've been alone there (asking about what medication had to be cancelled before that date): she was really thankful when I told her, she mustn't join me. (Usually, she likes to go there and is always happy when hearing "she is fit for her age".)
And today, it took as ages to go from the car to the praxis (which is just 100 yards away from her home).
Afterwards, she went to bed, was just up for lunch and evening tea.
When I phoned her the evening, she said, she was so tired.
Well, that doesn't sound positive, I think.
Walter, I am hoping that her surgeon will work this out. I don't know if you remember that when I had my cataract surgery back in '04, I had four operations.. that was primarily because from my underlying eye condition I didn't have zonules (tiny sort of ligaments that hold a lens in place, so my new lens was inserted far forward of the usual place... and kept slipping later, giving me a none too fetching "cat eye". They eventually controlled it, after surgical repositioning, with certain eye drops that keep the pupil from opening too wide. One can't take those drops too long, because that might keep the pupil permanently too small, and make further surgery difficult. So, I took them for about a year while they routinely checked how the pupil worked, and haven't had further trouble with that. And... I try try try to never rub that eye.
I can't tell if the situation is similar or not - hope it can be fixed.
Seems to be similar - chances to get it fixed are 60% - 70%. (Her pupils are very small.)
sorry Walter
cant say anything useful
just want you to know that I/we are reading your posts
Oh, good, Walter. Wondering if they will have another lens on hand. Well, never mind. Will be thinking of her and you.
ossobuco wrote:Oh, good, Walter. Wondering if they will have another lens on hand/ Well, never mind.
Yes, certainly. But I'm not that sure, he'll do it the same day. But who knows ... especially in advance.
Joining Steve in sending best wishes, Walter.
Thinking of you, your mother and the rest of your clan, Walter.
walter : this probably is not of any help to you , but i certainly are very sorry to hear that your mother is not doing very well .
while we are not at at that age yet - but gaining fast ! , i can tell you that things that were easy just three years ago are taking muuuuch longer now !
i used to cut our lawn in an afternoon - about 10,000 square feet - ; now i stretch it out over three days - promised mrs h i would hire someone next year to do it (problem is : i like doing it - veeeery sloooowly
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hbg
I hope everything goes well, Walter. Let us know, OK?
Sending my best wishes that you and your mother get through this as easily as possible. I know it's hard.
The operation was done today. Seems, he hadn't to replace the implanted lens - we didn't get any new data about a lens.
Took quite some time, though.
My wife's now with mother (will join her later), since she really was jazzed today, more than usually.
But actullay quite fine now, otherwise.
Tomorrow, when again at the doctor's, we'll know more what happened.
Best wishes to you all Walter
Did your mother have the operation in hospital or at a local clinic?
