Mental Decline & Dependency/Coping With Aging Loved Ones
Goodness, Walter, you're certainly between a rock and a hard place! If your mother's name isn't on a document, then your sister can claim that you ignored your mother, and if it is, your sister can say your mother was either (a) pressured into signing or (b) not mentally competent and therefore unable to understand what she was signing!
Unfortunately, Tomkitten, that's too true. (And something the court clerk seemed to be possible as well.)
It's the mots ridiculous idea ... but how can I prove that I paid x-Euros for mother e.g. at the barber's and not for someone else? Even a photo could be manipulated (what I do with mother since 12 years, according to her last letter to the court) ...
Walter--
I'm sure the court is saving copies of all relevant documents.
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Thanks, all, for the good wishes. Mr. Noddy means well, but he's a bit lacking in the Moral Support Department these days.
Haven't been in here for a while and I'm sending off hugs and well wishes to you Noddy and Walter.
Take good care of yourselves.
Thanks, Montana!
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Today, it's Mother's Day as well as the first day of Pentecost (Whitsun, we've Whit Monday as a ublic holiday, too).
Mother's Day is - "according our family tradition" - just an invention by florists to promote business. (But it was observed by us as well :wink: )
We've invited mother to a restaurant today, the one she wanted to go earlier this week, when she wanted to have some asparagus on Whitsun.
During the last couple of days, however, she actually wasn't keen anymore to go out for the meal - a result of .... whatever.
But we will go, and take her with us.
On the way back, we'll stop at our home and ask her to go inside, to search with us for "her jewelery" [something, we've done myriad times before]].
I'm really unsure what the day will bring ...
Best of luck to you today Walter and Happy Mothers Day to all you moms :-D
Walter--
Good luck and happy hunting.
Montana--
Happy Mother's Day to you, too.
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My son and d-i-l are down for the weekend and accomplishing wonders in the neglected yard. My new pills seem to be working. I had an four-hour unbroken stretch of sleep last night.
Life may be improving.
Noddy24 wrote:
My son and d-i-l are down for the weekend and accomplishing wonders in the neglected yard. My new pills seem to be working. I had an four-hour unbroken stretch of sleep last night.
Life may be improving.
Oh Noddy - I am so pleased for you. I hope life will continue to improve and that you feel better Delighted for you x
So glad to hear your good news Noddy. Couldn't happen on a better day :-D
Noddy, good to hear.
Walter, good luck for the day.
Walter, I held "conservatorship" for my mother many years ago, and also kept every single receipt, even for, say, 59 cents. I'm sure I didn't write on every one, but kept them in a file the better to record them from time to time for the court report. I guess I was lucky, re not be challenged by any relative.
However, if I was going to cheat, or you were, we could have put our mothers' names on non-mother receipts.
You have a very trying situation and I've a lot of sympathy.
Enjoy your improvement, Noddy ... Mother's Day and the visit as well!!!
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Mother didn't go for lunch (with is here the main meal) in the home's dining room but waited for us.
The meal was okay (meaning: we had had worse times being out with her).
Afterwards, she wanted to have coffee "where we had it yesterday" = on Friday, when we were shopping. Which was in our village.
When we sat down there, she wanted waffles, like she had had before. But since it was still lunchtime ...
After a stressful 30 minutes we changed the restaurant, and went to a café, ten yards away from our front door. All went pretty well, too.
She hesitated, didn't really want to go to her house - but agreed later.
(Amazing what she said: "I don't want to go to name of the street but HOME [= to the home]!)
So we went there, to name of the street, our house.
Twice she fall on the steps (slightly, I had more than one eye on her!), and made really very confusing choices of what to take with to her room in the home.
We "regulated" that .... after mother fund her jewelery case (which was in a different then the usual 40 hiding places we had looked after since months).
Mother was very content today, but totally exhausted when back to the home.
A (belated) happy Mother's Day to all mothers!
Walter--
I'm glad the day was a small success. Disaster is always possible.
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My son and d-i-l are on the road for home. They are going to try to come down at least once a month through the summer to help me keep up with the gardening chores.
I'm very pleased.
Pleased for you too Noddy. Enjoy the rest of your day.
Noddy, gardening chores! Yep have done some of them this weekend! I got the hedge trimmer out and cut my front hedge and side hedge! I then cut my neighbours hedge for her as she can not do it anymore (she is 76), boy did my arms ache from holding the machine!
Have a good time and try and get some relaxing done X
So glad to hear you're getting some help Noddy :-D
I'm also glad to hear your day went ok Walter :-D
Wishing you more good days to come.
Black tulip--
One of the pleasant parts of trimming hedges is that for several weeks--until burgeoning springtime takes over--you can see that you've made a difference.
True Noddy, hope all is going well X
I had a wonderful weekend with son and d-i-l who accomplished wonders in routine landscaping. They have promised to try to come down every month or so through the summer.
My d-i-l is also going to try to organize my stepsons (all very handy sorts) to do some of the house maintenance chores that Mr. Noddy has been postponing for weeks, months and years.
Even more soothing was two days of adult conversation. I hated to see them head off down the driveway.
