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I'm not sure if this is 'love' but I need advice! Long Question..

 
 
Joe123
 
Reply Tue 17 Jul, 2012 01:21 pm
So, on Saturday just gone I was out drinking from like 6PM til 5AM, with this group of people I've never actually been around before properly even though it was only down my local. However, a girl from my childhood was there from when I was about 12-13 and I had a crush on her big time back then and tried really hard to get with her, as much as you can when you're at such a young age. So after a few drinks, we got dancing, and then kissing, buying her a few drinks and all that and then I found out she hadn't long broke up with her boyfriend, now a mutual friend of ours tole me that "She hasn't been with him for like a month" But on her facebook they had only broke up a few hours before going out accordingly. So I mentioned it and she went with the month thing too, may be legit I'm not too sure. So I walked her home at about 5 in the morning and then was sat on her doorstep for about 30-40 minutes just talking and she said "I'm off to Turkey on Monday" Making conversation and I found out her ex is going too, and me being drunk said "You'll probably be back together when you come back then" And she said, "no. I doubt it, I don't think I want to." I also asked her would she consider going on a date with me too, prior to the new batman movie coming out.. We're both sort of nerdy people so I thought maybe it would be nice enough to do together.

Now these past 3 days I can't stop thinking about her and I also can't stop thinking am I just a rebound, from her ex, or was she being serious with me too? It felt nice when I was with her and I haven't felt like that with a girl in a long long time, I go out and get around some women sometimes and it's just a kiss to me but after me and her spoke all night it felt much nicer.

Do you think I should let this whole thing fly? Or see if she's still single when she gets back from Turkey and offer to take her out on a date?

And do you think I'm being silly for being so led on after something like this that has just passed? I'm feeling lost because maybe to her it was just a drunken thing, but to me it was such a great night haha.

Thank you, any more questions ask away and I will post in the details, thanks.
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jespah
 
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Reply Tue 17 Jul, 2012 05:08 pm
@Joe123,
I'm getting the feeling you haven't had a lot of relationships.

Be that as it may, you were both drunk, so who knows? You have her number, right? And you know when she's returning from Turkey, right? So live your life and then call her when she returns. The following are possible scenarios -

1) She's broken up with the other fellow and wants to go out with you.
2) She's broken up with him but does not want to go out with you.
3) She's still with the other fellow and does not want to go out with you.
4) She's still with the other fellow and wants to cheat on him with you.
5) She wonders who the heck you are and how come you have her number, and/or why you are asking her out.

As for the likelihood of each of these, I'd say #5 is the least likely, but you never know, what is said while drunk is often forgotten later. Or it is conveniently forgotten.

In the meantime, she is going on vacation with this other guy. Chances are extremely good that a room will be shared somewhere in there. You have no claim on this woman whatsoever. You have no real right to jealousy here if it turns out she isn't broken up at all.

Live your life. Call when she gets back, if you want to. But do not sit around waiting, hoping that all will be smooth sailing when she returns. I am willing to lay down money that it won't be, sorry.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Tue 17 Jul, 2012 07:52 pm
Don't put your life on hold about this.

It was a "happening" - one of those incidence things that just takes place. It meant a lot to you, but maybe little to her.

At least she knows you are at home. Time will tell.
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