I say......take the bull by the horns :wink: If you have tried talking to him and it hasn't done any good.....then pull his reigns back a little bit and YOU take control.
I believe that the more you give to your partner....the more you will get back. IN and OUT of the bedroom. But since this is about the bedroom...if I were you, I would be the agressor. Let him follow your lead and if he trys to get to the "meat" of things too quickly....pull back.
Without being too "blunt"....try softly trailing kisses up and down his body....and in between each kiss....tell him one thing you would like him to do to your body. When you are all done.....ask him to do the same for you. It might kick-start his foreplay. And would be a good way for you both to learn what the other likes....and sometimes learning in a sensual way is much better then talking. Men are pretty defensive anyways. Sometimes it's hard to get them to listen.
As a side-note.......Making love is an expression of the love you feel for that other person. Sometimes.....it's meant to be soft and gentle. Other times....it's meant to be passionate and heated. But always, when you fall back exhausted in each others arms....you are meant to be held. That can be one of the most tender moments of making love. If you are getting none of that.....you will always feel like you do now. Unfullfilled.
And life is too short for that
But hey....what do I know
~Brooke