PLEASE HELP!!!!!! I DONT KNOW HOW TO COPE!!!!!!!

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Recently my girlfriend of 4 months and I had a discussion about our sexual pasts. It was my fault really for being curious because i have had these honest talks with past girl friends....and our relationship was moving fast and really was beginning to think she could be the one so wy not be open and honest, but I was not expecting the answer I received. I am 28 and she is 24. She is a red head bombshell, 36C, very skinny, and a total free spirit party girl......looks totally innocent like a girl you would think is a nerd. I have only been with 7 people in my life because i have mostly been in relationships. Before we gave each other our answers i told her that she could be totally open and honest with me and i wouldnt judge.....i was expecting the normal range of 5-15 people for someone her age who went away to college. Well i was blindsided by her answer and i havnt gotten over it. Its starting to haunt me really everytime we have sex, and now even at more subtle moments like watching TV and cuddling.

So I confessed my 7 people and I am no prude believe me. When it was her turn she asked me once again for assurance that I wouldnt judge if she answered.....which i repied of course not. Over 100 she replied as she didnt not have an exact number but it was well over 100. My girl friend has had over 100 dicks in her body!!! Over 100 dicks in her mouth because she enjoys giving oral!!!! Over 100 different loads in her mouth because she does swallow!!! Who knows how many in her ass because she does enjoy anal!!!!!! I felt the hot rush swell over my body as i couldnt believe what i just heard. OVER 100!!!!!!!!!!!!

The cat was out of the bag, and trying to remain calm i had to ask more questions and reason how it was so many at the age of 24......bad idea!!!! I knew she was a free spirit and I love her for it, but damn....i didnt know she was that free. She told me she had been having sex for over 10 years as she lost her virginity at the age of 13 to a 17 neighbor. She broke it down to high school activity and college activity and i couldnt believe my ******* ears.

She said she believes in having experiences of all kinds, only living once, and livign life to the fullest. Ill give you a short summary of what my slut gf has done.....and **** i dont know how to handle it and i dont know if i can stay with her.....but i do love her so this is why i am torn and need help/advice from anyone who can relate

-she admits to having sex with 3/4 of her male friends at some point or another because she gets horny when she drinks and confessed to not always using condoms (she is clean however because we did get tested prior to this convo so we can have sex naturally). keep in mind a girl like this has lots of male friends and she is still friends with them.

-she admits to having sex with a few of her girl friends boy friends just because she would and knew they wanted her...slut right?

-she admits to being in numerous affairs with married men because they would spoil her and take her away to really nice hotel rooms.....one of them being a friend of hers father

-she admits to going to a rainbow party which is when a girl will suck multiple guys dicks in a single night......and who knows what else happened. i didnt ask further

-she dated a guy who was a swinger for a brief period in which she confessed to having multiple 3somes and more somes with other couples and men and was even gang banged by 7 guys before because it turned her bf at the time on. 7 ******* GUYS AT ONCE!!!!!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!!!! she likes anal too so i know she was filled to the ******* brim

-she was fucked in a swing club in front of 100+ people

-admited to have taken some very large dicks. Im not small...a little over average but this really is ******* with my head if she thinks about others during sex.......she is petite so they literally must have been in her rib cage because she said the biggest was over 10inces......why i asked....i cant tell you

-admited to going thru what she called a "black phase" where all she did was **** black guys she met at clubs or whereever because they turn her on.....not sure if this still applies. im not racist but damn, we all know the sterotypes

-has made amatuer porno tapes for bfs and one guy who paid her. she has numerous naked pictures of her around (which isnt bad because she sent me soem at first) but after hearing this im sure all her friends have them as well......and who knows where the videos are

-and admitted to having an abortion

these were just a few of the responses i received, some were just as bad which i didnt list but over 100 guys........ and damn myself for being curious because the details are haunting me because as much as i didnt want to hear....i had to know. my sweet innocent looking girl friend is a major slut and i dont know what to do!!!! Everytime we have sex all i can think about is her in a gang bang and its driving me insane with rage and insecurity. 7 ******* guys at once!!!! how do you even set that **** up? not to mention everytime we hang out with her friends all i can think about is them ******* her...and some are total douches.

If anyone can help me please Im all ears. I really am at a loss and each passing day im filled with rage, jealousy, and resentment toward her. Its only 4 months but a part of me thought that this girl could be the one. Do i try to get over this somehow and stay with her because i love her? isnt that what love is? uncondition? or do i cut my losses and start over?

please help!!!!!

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@pleasehelp8888,

So, this is identical to your previous post. How many other sites are being blessed with this paste up job?

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@roger,

I MADE A MISTAKE THE FIRST TIME BY NOT PUTTING IN THE RIGHT FORUM. I DIDNT MEAN TO POST IT TWICE BUT I WAS HOPING FOR PROPER RESPONSES UNDER THE SEX FORUM BECAUSE PEOPLE JUST SEEM TO BE MAKING FUN OF ME ON THE OTHER POST

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Assuming you aren't just a masturbating creep, posting a fake story for thrills which I strongly suspect, ("100 loads in her mouth" etc), and assuming your story is true: this girl is not for you. She sounds like an interesting truthful attractive young woman and you sound like a dweeb with his head up his own ass. Girls have more partners than boys. especially if the girl is attractive and easy going. An attractive young woman might start having sex around 14-15 and if she is 24 now that's an average of around 10 per year. That's not even 1 per month. Since you said she had had multiple swinging occasions that makes the interval longer. Anyhow she might have invented the figure to see what you'd do. If it matters to you then you shouldn't be with her.

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@pleasehelp8888,

I am being honest and the '100 loads' commentwas my mind playing tricks on me. I can deal with being called names, and I didn't know what to expect when I decided to have blind faith in the public and expect a realistic helpful response.....I guess I tried to believe in humanity. And no girls don't always have more partners then guys because some are very picky with who they give their bodies too. I'm realistic and I thought I wasn't a jealous person so I could have been fine with a number even in the 20s. I had this convoy with previous experience and it usually went well and took our honestly to a new level. Call me what names you will but hopefully I will find 1 person who can relate some way and give me the courage and strength to try to put this past me and accept it because i really do like this girl alot. She did offer to give me 3some experiences but it still doesn't erase the cancer my mind is creating. I'm trying

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You need to go out every night and ask every woman you meet, "Hi, my name is PleaseHelp. Have you had sex with more than seven men?"
Sleep with all of the ones who haven't. (because you can't handle that fact)
It's going to be difficult to find many, but hang in there and don't stop until you hit a hundred.
(The cool thing is you can ask the women as time goes on "Hi, have you had sex with more than ________? (fill in the blank)

Once you get to about 125, you can call up the woman you are concerned about now.

Or, just forget about her.
Joe(Your pick)Nation

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@pleasehelp8888,

I don't think anyone can give you an answer that will help you to cope. You either accept the fact that she has had many sexual partners or you walk away from her because you cannot get past that.

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@pleasehelp8888,

Hey Joe, go **** yourself. I asked my gf, not every random girl I meet. Go be an asshole else where

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@pleasehelp8888,

pleasehelp8888 wrote:

Hey Joe, go **** yourself. I asked my gf, not every random girl I meet. Go be an asshole else where

Joe's right, it's just that you are such a dweeb you cannot take the truth.

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@contrex,

Its not taking the truth its living with it and i doubt your much better in my shoes

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@pleasehelp8888,

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and our relationship was moving fast and really was beginning to think she could be the one so wy not be open and honest

So, is she still the one?

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@pleasehelp8888,

So she looked like an "angel", nerd, but good looking and you liked her breast size, or else you wouldn't have added that in.

But, then in bed with you she did "everything" which led you to ask her. You told her to be honest and when she did, (if it's true), you are now besides yourself.

If it's eating you up that much, let her go..

More importantly. Guess what? What happens in someone's past is their business not yours. It is of no importance what so ever, you don't own anyone and they are exactly that, a free spirit "before they meet you"...

Try in the future not asking... Maybe you can enjoy a fullfilling relationship that way..

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@pleasehelp8888,

I seriously don't think you are after help.

You have listed in explicit and exact detail a long list of things you find wrong with her...things you can't 'fix'...you know all this, so there's nothing new anyone can say to you.

If you have a problem with her that you can't get over, move on.

If you can't treat her with respect, and you need to respect her, then move on.

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@pleasehelp8888,

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Hey Joe, go **** yourself. I asked my gf, not every random girl I meet. Go be an asshole else where

I may be wasting my time with this, and I know Joe doesn't give a crap what you think of him, but just so you know. Joe was attempting to show you how silly you are being by suggesting you go out and screw enough women until you have caught up to her in quantity, at which time you might not be as upset with the number of men she has screwed. Get it now?

I'm guessing that had she only been with 2 men before you and she got all upset that you had been with 7 different women that you would not understand why she would be upset. Personally, and those who know me well enough here will attest, I'm not a believer is pre-marital sex and sleeping around with every person you take a fancy to, so I don't understand why it matters to you whether she has had 3 or 300 partners in her life. She is screwing you now, at least until she moves on to someone else or you decide to move on to number 8, or whatever number it will be. So get over it.

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@pleasehelp8888,

i know how u feel..i am married to one myself..she only told me the truth after 8 months of marriage..it sucks..sometimes i feel like ending my own life..atleast u ve slept with 7 girls in your life..im 33 and i only slept with 3 coz i believe sex is sacred..life aint fair innit?

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