when i finally addressed my sexuality and shared it to the person i was attracted to, she openly accepted it. she was in failing relationship with her first and new boyfriend. i adviced her to keep her relationship and do something to improve it, but she said that she decided to end it because it was pity that pushed her to give this person her approval. i openly shared about my present experiences regarding my personal life including my sexuality and my feelings for her, (and ask her to stop me if i don't stand a chance)while she on the other hand continued to listen and never gave her side. we have a strong relationship perhaps as friends. when i was introduced to her (male) friend, me and her friend went along very well. but after that, she told me that she's jealous, and only wanted me for herself. it made me realize that perhaps she feels the same way as i do. days after that.. we watched a movie together.. i asked her if she wanted to invite anyone else to join us and she said that she didn't want to for personal reasons... there was awkwardness... i had the attempt to hold her hands but decided to not to.. the day after that she told me that she can't give me what i want.. annndd that she misleaded me.. that she wanted her exboyfriend back.. that she had feelings for him but never addressed it. we never had the right communication.. i am heart broken... unfortunately she's the best friend I have, some times i feel that she only played with my heart... and deceived me.... she's young and inexperienced... i'm 18 and she's 17... she's a conformist...... i wrote her a letter and asked her to answer me back but she never did... now she's inviting me to hang out with her and her other friends that i'd never met before... what should i do?
Lol, CoastalRat and I don't always see eye to eye, but I'm with him on this one - why don't you make up your own mind what's important to you?
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Thu 29 Mar, 2012 11:28 pm
@absoluteunknown,
i am very confused. i wrote her a letter telling her that i might have just deceived myself and apologize in advance because i will distance myself away from her and let go. then i asked her to write me a back and she never did.
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Thu 29 Mar, 2012 11:43 pm
@absoluteunknown,
it fascinates me how everything seemed normal to her. i don't talk to her that much anymore, while she treats me the way she always did. a friend told me that someone like her should be not be forgiven because she would've stopped me and at least tell me that we can't never be in a relationship. was she possibly be pressured and not want me to feel bad??
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Thu 29 Mar, 2012 11:51 pm
@absoluteunknown,
here are my options:
a) pretend nothing happened and shrug everything off ( i think that's how she is now )
*but then i will make myself vulnerable again and risk myself of being betrayed
b) don't be friends with her
*just be MADDDDDDD!
i got myself too attached to her = shooting myself in the head over and over again
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Thu 29 Mar, 2012 11:57 pm
@absoluteunknown,
i think she's too awesome for me to let her go :/ though i can't be a martyr.......... I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DOO!!!!!!!!!!!
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Thu 29 Mar, 2012 11:59 pm
@absoluteunknown,
now i feel like asking her if she's just trying to forget what happened before and just move on.. but i don't want to make myself appear desperate... though i actually am )) i just don't get why she won't tell me anything ( please HELP ME!
(((((((((((((((
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Fri 30 Mar, 2012 12:06 am
@absoluteunknown,
should i just be grateful that she still want to be friends with me? :O and not put up with my crap??? am i too attached to her that i always see her as A GOOD PERSON?!
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absoluteunknown
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Fri 30 Mar, 2012 12:17 am
@absoluteunknown,
P.S.
I definitely WON'T ASK FOR ANYTHING BEYOND FRIENDSHIP between us
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PUNKEY
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Fri 30 Mar, 2012 05:25 am
It seems that this "incident" is much more important to you than to her.
You have to accept that there will not be the kind of relationship that YOU want from her. So accept that. (I know it's hard, but you have to break that addiction to her)
Then decide how much you can see her. If seeing her breaks your heart, then don't try to be friends if you have these immense feelings that give you so much pain.
You still don't sound like you are willing to accept that she has rejected you as a lover.
I had the same experience. You can remain the friendship with her, the thing you should not do is keep flashing back your memory when you're with her. Treat her like a new friend or a good friend. It needs time to heal. I know how painful it is. Put yourself in her shoes, that was not easy for her too.
)) i just don't get why she won't tell me anything 
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