@matfonk,
You have every right to go and 'confront' her. In fact, it would be ridiculous if you did not.
But as to 'confronting' her...what are you trying to achieve out of doing so? I'd have that clear in your mind before you do. Have in your mind the safe ground for yourself, which are three grounds (that I can see):
- it's your baby too, and you have a right to know what she decides (she certainly can't tell you not to care about the pregnancy and your possible future child)
- you are her partner and care for her (she doesn't have a right to ask you not to care)
- As a partner she is being cruel to you, and you have a right to ask her why she is being so cruel (you have a right to no be treated cruelly by your partner)
Of course, for each of those there are
valid counter arguments (on her behalf)...
and...they in no way invalidate your right to be treated with respect. Stand up for yourself while respecting her rights...they are in conflict, so you do have every right to ask her why she is doing this...
respectfully,
and with firmness that you won't be treated like dirt.
Lastly, if she is absolutely desperate to have a child, there is no way she would suddenly want it aborted, unless :
- she thought that you might be the reason she can't have a child,
and
- so she tried with someone else,
and
- she got pregnant,
and
- she now feels incredibly guilty (which will be for more than just one reason)
OR
- there was some very unforeseen reason why it is no longer viable to have a child with you.
To me,
from the story presented, that's
by far the most obvious explanation...but, there is always reason to also be cautious, as we may not have the whole story.
That doesn't mean you shouldn't ask her what is going on, based on the previously mentioned 3 grounds (or any grounds that you feel you have a right to know or act towards - stand up for them while caring for whatever it is that is going on in her head...both at once is always possible, even if they argue it is not - which some try as a distraction technique).