taking the horse before the cart

When I was younger a guy who was my boyfriend went to the army and the last letter he sent to me was asking me to marry him and when he came home for two weeks I did not see him. One of my family members said they had saw him and he said that he was looking for a ring for me and he also told my family member that that Saturday He was going to come and see me but he never called nor showed. so I called his house and for the first time his mother which I had never talked to nor seen before answered the phone. When I talked to her I asked to speak to him and she said he was preparing for his wedding as we speak. So I asked her to have him call me and he did not call that day. The next day I called back and asked for The address of which he lived and I proceeded to send everything he had given to me back to him without an explanation later I talked to one of my family members and I told her I could not figure out why he never called or came and the family member said that she was told that he did come but was fussed at and turned away by one of my family members without my knowledge three years later I saw him in a store and called his name he turned around and then turned right back around would not say a word to me . forty yrs later I saw him again he came to my house to repair an appliance he was very kind and did not mention a word about the situation and neither did I. I have seen him several times after would it be right to apologize? Please feel free to comment and answer my question with your opinion.