taking the horse before the cart

Reply Fri 17 Feb, 2012 07:52 pm
When I was younger a guy who was my boyfriend went to the army and the last letter he sent to me was asking me to marry him and when he came home for two weeks I did not see him. One of my family members said they had saw him and he said that he was looking for a ring for me and he also told my family member that that Saturday He was going to come and see me but he never called nor showed. so I called his house and for the first time his mother which I had never talked to nor seen before answered the phone. When I talked to her I asked to speak to him and she said he was preparing for his wedding as we speak. So I asked her to have him call me and he did not call that day. The next day I called back and asked for The address of which he lived and I proceeded to send everything he had given to me back to him without an explanation later I talked to one of my family members and I told her I could not figure out why he never called or came and the family member said that she was told that he did come but was fussed at and turned away by one of my family members without my knowledge three years later I saw him in a store and called his name he turned around and then turned right back around would not say a word to me . forty yrs later I saw him again he came to my house to repair an appliance he was very kind and did not mention a word about the situation and neither did I. I have seen him several times after would it be right to apologize? Please feel free to comment and answer my question with your opinion.
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Reply Fri 17 Feb, 2012 07:58 pm
It's been forty years. Don't worry about it.
Reply Fri 17 Feb, 2012 08:39 pm
40 years is a really long time. Don't think he cares about you as much. Forget about him and move on.
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Reply Fri 17 Feb, 2012 09:09 pm
Sad little story there.

What have the two of you talked about when you've seen each other in the more recent years?
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Reply Fri 17 Feb, 2012 09:45 pm
This sounds like one of the stories you see on a soap opera.

This would be unfinished business for me. I would want to know. Was there a mix-up? Did someone from the family tell him something? Did he have a change of heart? Why didn't he speak to you in person? (My god, you were going to get MARRIED!!)

What happened? I would want to sit down and discuss what happened all those years ago.

Reply Fri 17 Feb, 2012 09:59 pm
you're right.

what this story needs is an evil twin.

how cool would that be...
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Reply Fri 17 Feb, 2012 11:06 pm
I can understand why you would want closure on such a serious matter as a proposal and wedding - and why he never contacted you. I hope you didn't waste those 40 years waiting, and found your happiness with someone else.

It's also possible that you were never meant to be together with this guy, and it turned out for the best - for both of you.

That spilt milk curdled a long time ago, and dried out without any memory.
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Reply Sat 18 Feb, 2012 08:10 am
Let us know.

But get this settled so you can put it to rest.

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