chantel

Ya might wanna put off that wedding, eh?

If you cannot talk to him about this, plus the cheating (it's the inability to broach the subject and the cheating) make for a marriage that is fairly well doomed from the start.

I am sorry that this is happening but since you say you have proof you gotta know things are not good.

I suppose the way I would confront him would be a straightforward something like

The marriage is off. I know you have been cheating. Here is the proof (then present the proof). Regardless of this, our baby comes first and his (or her) safety, health, comfort and education needs do not change, regardless of how faithful you have been or whatever happens between you and me.

Then it's up to you whether you wish to add the following lines: I love you and I want to try to work this out, but you need to be willing to work on this and that is going to be a lot of effort on your part. This **** has got to stop now.

Best of luck to you. This is not going to be easy no matter how you slice it.

Just ask him, show him the proof, and see what happens. Good Lord. How difficult is this, really? What do you want to do?

This seems like a no-brainer, so I wonder why you even ask.

So . . . he must have some kind of hold on you. That's disturbing, since he will always play those games with you and you won't be able to deal with it.

Seek legal advice about his obligation to support the child. It sounds like you are going to need it in the future.

He's already revealed himself to you. He's not going to change.