@melissa108,
Hi Melissa,
There are a few things in your post that point to a very similar friendship that I had with someone else, and that I think might be the case here.
It sounds very much like you are smothering the boy. Whether he's suffering from depression, moving on to a new stage in his life, or what . . . it seems like whatever your 'usual' relationship was prior it is now changing. The fact that you're more caught up with the quantity of his responses vs/ whatever he actually says speaks volumes to my hypothesis.
After a certain amount of time (you didn't specify exactly how long you've been 'friends' so this is conjecture) some people just can't handle any more negative vibes. In my case, the girl that was a friend of mine would email me 3 , 4, 6 times in one hour asking if something was wrong because I hadn't immediately replied to her. Then she just assumed that everything was horribly wrong and she had done something when, in fact, I was just busy and hadn't had the opportunity to reply back.
I still wanted to be her friend, but I wanted her to relax. It got to where whenever she would send 4 - 5 messages at once I started ignoring them because I didn't want to deal with the drama of having to explain how nothing was wrong, yet again.
That smothering is what stopped us from being friends. The friendship was utterly one sided with her drawing from me emotionally but never filling me back up (to use a metaphor).
Does that make sense? It's possible that I'm way off base but this is what I take away from the bit you've posted. If you have more details that might help.