Jes, I think (this is from reading a lot of Indian novels, so not exactly authoritative) that the men have a lot more say in this than the women. As in, while the man may be able to look through a lot of profiles and choose, the woman then is either faced with a lot of pressure to accept the choice made by her FAMILY. I think there is usually some sort of a meeting, where the prospective bride and groom meet, and they have power of veto then.
Gautam???