@DoubleA-Ron,
The courts provide you with a lawyer, and, given your circumstances may provide other fuckwits - sorry, advisors.
I'm no fan of the way things are, I have my own rage about courts, re my family. That's just my advice for now.
I don't know that my advice is the best, others here on a2k may have more useful things to say.
On turning yourself in, I think that can be a plus in the system, but I don't know.
(don't trust me, but then you don't already)