would this be so bad?

This sounds all to familuar. Get a dog, mine love to lick my feet.

In my mind "feetin aint cheatin"

What is your wife's fantasy?

mine is to have a nice koi pond with a waterfall feature.

First of all, you're not weird. Well, you're weird but that's only because we are all weird in some respect.

I'd sit down with your wife and express your concerns. Explain to her that you want to share this most intimate moment with her. Hands, mouth, feet...it doesn't matter. If someone else is doing it (besides you or your wife) it's cheating. And I don't think you really want to cheat on your wife, or you'd have done it already.

Perhaps you need to help her to be more adventurous in bed. Some people just don't know HOW to be anything other than "normal". Sit her down and ask her what's the craziest thing she'd like to do in bed. If she says nothing, remind her that you've opened up yourself to her regarding your foot fetish and that anything she tells you is safe and ok. If she just wants to do something tame, don't tell her that it's not kinky enough. Just go with it and help her see that you are a safe place and she can let go with you. Hopefully, in time, she will start to open up more in bed.

Honestly, a lot of people have a lot of hang ups in the bedroom. We think that it's weird or nasty or freaky. But in fact, people (straight or gay) do all sorts of things in the bedroom and have been since the beginning of time. If we can do it with our bodies, it's already been done by someone, somewhere.

I think before you seek outside help, you should talk to your wife. You love her and married her for a reason. I would hope she would be open to conversation with you about sex.