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Tue 31 May, 2011 10:20 am
WELL LAST NIGTH I HAS A ARGUMET WITH MY HUSBAND WELL FROM THE START HE IS IN PAROL AND IM IN PROBATION WHAT HURTS ME IS THAT HE DOESNT WORRY ABOUT HELPING ME MAKE PAYMENTS ON MY PROBATION AND I'M THE ONLY ONE WORKING NOW HE WORKS ON CARS AND NOT EVERYDAY HE GETS A CAR TO WORK ON BUT WHEN HE DOES IS ABOUT FROM 30 TO 60$ A DAY IN AN HOUR HE NOW WE HAVE PAYMENTS AND 30 OR 60 DOLLAS HELP ALOT WELL WHAT HE DOES IS HE BUYS HIS DRUG AND ALCOHOL AND HE MAKES IS A HAPPIT OF DOING THIS 4-3 TIMES A WEEK IM TIRED OF BEEN BEHIND HIM I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART I STARTED WORKING AROUND 3 WEEKS NOW I USED TO BABYSIT AND I USED TO WIN 120.0 A WEEK NOT I WIN 320.0 A WEEK WE HAVE PAYMENT IM LATE ON MY PROBATION ALL HE THINKS IS THAT I DONT CARE OF HE NEEDS THAT HE NEEDS TO HAVE FUN BUT I CANT HAVE FUN WHILE IM WORRIED ABOUT HOW I WILL MAKE MY PAYMENT ALL HE DOES IS LAY DOWN AT THE HOUSE WATCH TV. THIS WEEK HE GOT ABOUT 110$ FROM A WORK TELL ME WHERE IT IS HAVE NO IDEA I HAD TO PUT GAS FOR THE HOUSE GAS FOR THE CAR CELL PHONE PAYMENT LIGHT PAYMENT AND WHEN HE GOT THE MONEY I ASK HIM TO GIVVE THE LIGHT BILL ALL HE SAID OH SO I CANT USED IT BECAUSE I HAVE TO GIVE THE LIGHT BILL ALL HE SAYS THAT WAS FOR HIM TO USE I/M TIRED I WANT TO MAKE THIS RELATIONSHIP WORK... .ALSO ONE MORE THING IM NOT ABLE TO HAVE KIDS WHEN I TELL HIM WE NEED TO HELP YOU STOP THIKING ABOUT YOURSELF AND HELP ME OUT WITH WHATEVER U GET I TELL HIM IF YOU DONT STOP YOU DRUG ABUSE I DONT NOW WHAT I WILL DO I WANT THIS MARRIAGE TO WORK AND TO BE STRONG THEN HE TELLS ME HEY I DONT TELL U NOTHING BECAUSE U CANT GIVE ME A CHILD LAST NIGHT HE TOLD ME THAT I GOT HURT WHEN HE TOLD ME HIS CUZING WERE TELLING HIM JUST GO HAVE A CHILD OUTSIDE WITH SOMEONE THATS A GOOD REASEON FOR HER TO LEAVE YOU WHAT SHE NOT SUPPOSE TO LEAVE BECAUSE U DO Cocaine I GET DISAPOINTED WHEN HE TELLS ME HE HAS NO MONEY THEY WILL PAY TILL TOMM. BUT LATER THAT NIGHT HE IS DOING Cocaine AND DRINKING WHAT SHOULD I DO I'M LOST, HE DOESNT HELP IN HOUSE OR OUTSIDE ALL HE THINKS WHEN THURSDAY AND FRIDAY SAT. SUN. ABOUT HAVING FUN WITH HIS CUZ.. WHAT SHOULD I DO PLEASE HELP ME WITH U WORDS.
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Hard to read ALL CAPITALS like that, but what I think I got from this is that you're being his mommy. Kick the guy out. You're doing everything for him and he's only doing things for himself. That is not a mature way to handle a relationship, which is why I suggest he's the kid and you're the mom. So, again, kick the bum out.
Why do you love him?
I am confused as to why you stay with a man who has so many problems and does not have your back.
Besides, you are on probation and he is not the type of person you should be hanging with
Do you have a family or friend you could live with?