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My best friend has a boyfriend that I think is a loser. But since I might be bais I just wanted to have a top ten list from some girls about what makes a bad boyfriend. Then I can see if he is the list. Thanks.

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Not again!

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ooh didn't know that was coming (enter sarcasim at will, again)

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Lots of things make for a "bad boyfriend". Hitting and verbal abuse should top most lists. As for the rest, a lot of it just, well, depends.

A guy who's very romantic might be wholly unable to balance his checkbook, and continually live in debt. A guy able to fix his girlfriend's car might be unable to be tender with her. A good dancer might be incapable of commitment. A guy who writes poetry might be a smooth talker who lies.

So you see there's more to it than just a list, although abuse is abuse in anyone's book and really can't be argued.

So, what is it that says to you that the guy's a loser? He might seem that way to you but treat your friend like gold. I'm sure there are people who think my Dad or my father-in-law or my husband aren't the coolest guys on the planet, but they're all stable, kind and loving men. So, I repeat, what's telling you that this guy's a loser?

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I apreciate everyone wanting to help but I was really looking for silly list type thing. I really don't need serious answers. It is my fault I should have stated that. I know there can't be a list and I know the diffrince between personalities clashing and not good for the soul people. I was just looking for maybe a article on a web site. Something. Next time I will know that I have to specific in my request.

Oh and about the spelling - I can't. And the spell check is not working for me other wise I would.

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Bad Boyfriends

1. He doesn't know what you're thinking and can't seem to read your mind.
2. He doesn't do what you say or want.
3. He doesn't shower you with compliments, gifts, massages, does the laundry, makes your dinner, yada yada yada.
4. He doesn't keep himself looking good for you - face, hair, body - without apparently trying or going to a gym, barber or other establishment to do so.
5. He doesn't call when you expect him to or when he says he will.
6. He doesn't give you control of the remote at least half of the time.
7. He ogles other women (either in front of you or when you are not around), or he cheats (punishable by severe pain and lots of it).
8. He farts and belches in front of you and doesn't even bother to be embarrassed any more.
9. He tells you that you are fat (or any words that even suggest in the slightest that your weight is anything more than svelte, even if you are a blimp). This is also punishable by severe pain.
10. He lets his mother/brother/friends say bad things (or even slightly not so good) about you and doesn't jump to your defense.

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LOL Heeven

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jespah wrote:

Lots of things make for a "bad boyfriend". Hitting and verbal abuse should top most lists. As for the rest, a lot of it just, well, depends.

A guy who's very romantic might be wholly unable to balance his checkbook, and continually live in debt. A guy able to fix his girlfriend's car might be unable to be tender with her. A good dancer might be incapable of commitment. A guy who writes poetry might be a smooth talker who lies.

So you see there's more to it than just a list, although abuse is abuse in anyone's book and really can't be argued.

So, what is it that says to you that the guy's a loser? He might seem that way to you but treat your friend like gold. I'm sure there are people who think my Dad or my father-in-law or my husband aren't the coolest guys on the planet, but they're all stable, kind and loving men. So, I repeat, what's telling you that this guy's a loser?

Interesting post, jespah. On the first point, I wholeheartedly agree. Abuse of any sort requires intervention, IMO. Now....the second paragraph hangs itself on a sort of wimmins "wish list" for mates....romantic, able to make money, fix the car, be tender, commit and know the tango, write poetry, talk smooth and never lie. Although not stated in that exact manner, it could be extrapolated that if all the t's were crossed, and all the i's were dotted, that might make a perfect man, including a good bod and mug, of course. Don't get me started on psycho girlfriends who seem great at first and become nightmares in the end. Craziness is not exclusive to mins.

As for your conclusion, I concur, what exactly is it that BlueMonkey is bothered by, besides jealousy?

Oooh, just saw Heeven's list...I might add: He's human. Laughing