@Roberta,
"Supernanny is a show that's been on for years. It runs on one obscure cable station, disappears, and then shows up on another cable station. I have no interest in child-rearing. But I will watch this occasionally. Why. The kids. I thought I was a difficult child. I think my parents thought so too. But in my wildest dreams, I would never have smacked, punched, kicked, or spit on my parents. And if I had dared to do one of those things, I might have survived the results, but I wouldn't have done it again. What the hell is going on?"
I don't understand any of this, I don't know why anyone would let their children be so appallingly disrespectful. I did raise children and I had absolutely no interest in being a doormat. Now I'm a grandmother and although I worship the ground little boo boo treds upon, she's in deep doo doo if she is disrespectful to me, or her grandfather, or her mother or the model of perfection child I raised, my sainted son, young mr. G'bag. Your parents, my parents and all our grandparents would never allow a child to behave in such a terrible way....it never stops once you forfeit leadership, it just gets worse.
I never had to resort to hitting or smacking children, I have this 'look' that 'mother's glare' that stops them in their tracks. A few well chosen words when they ignore (defy) the 'look' for enforcement when necessary. If you ground them, you better stay home ........ don't use the honor system, it seldom works.
It's important to teach your children that although you may love them unconditionally......the rest of the world won't, especially if they are little jerks.