@PUNKEY,
PUNKEY wrote:
Serena - yours is the lament of a woman who is trying to CHANGE a man.
Accept what is. If it is not good for you, move on.
Why would you stay in a situation where you are so perplexed??
The only good way to change anyone is to make them feel differently... Reason does not work, and even when you want to change yourself, and your behavior, it is still a slow and difficult process... But, if a man will not change for love, and for the hope of love, then the person is too brittle, and likely unable to change for good or ill... I am out of here... Miss lonelyhearts is not my thing; but if you love some one, you love them as they are, and changing them except in some incidental fashion is not necessary...