What to do??

You said it yourself. He is addicted to porn. Addictions don't often simply go away. I'm betting you will have to learn to live with it.

As an aside, I don't understand the appeal of porn, especially if a person is in a committed relationship. I've been married nearly 30 years and have no desire to visit porn sites. My wife is still plenty enough for me. But that's just me I guess.

Good luck to you.

I would off hand suggest you grow up a little as men for the most part like to view porn and by itself, it say little about how loyal or loving of a husband he will be.

Now gay male on male porn is a horse of another color and should raise a few red flags concerning his sexuality that it would be wise for you to find out about ahead of a marriage. Male gay sex scenes cause most straight males to throw up and not something a straight male would go to knowingly for any reason.

Now if the porn site is of lesbian’s porn then also forget about it.


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Lord your halo must be on tight indeed.

I too had been in a very long term <2 decades> non cheating relationship and now married to the same woman for five years and I enjoy porn.

So what???????????

To each his own. I only said I do not understand the appeal. In my humble opinion, I would think most women would have an issue with their spouse getting off on porn, since that would seem to reflect badly on themselves and what they do for their husband. I realize that a lot of people like porn, otherwise it would not be such big business.

Oh yeah, just so you know, I have had to adjust my halo several times over the years. Usually just a quick tightening in order to adjust for the loss of hair. I never have liked a loose halo.

My woman could care less and any woman who care is the one with the problem not the men in my opinion who happen to enjoy porn.

It said nothing about the feelings or love a man had for his woman.

I would cheerfully give my life for my wife.

Glad to hear it. Never hinted that you wouldn't. Nor did I hint that you did not love your woman. But I'm curious about something Bill. And pardon me if I'm getting off the topic, and of course feel free to ignore my question if you feel it is too personal. But I'm going to ask it anyway. Don't know if you have a daughter or not, but if you did, how would you feel if she got mixed up in the porn industry? Would you be happy with the idea that men, like yourself, were getting off watching your daughter "perform?" And not to be crude, but what if you watched a porn movie one day and saw your daughter in it? Have you ever listened to some of the ex-porn stars talk about the exploitation that goes on in the porn industry? And if so, are you truly comfortable supporting that?

Well, that's enough of my rant on the porn industry. I'm sure many on A2K don't care to hear about it. As I said earlier, to each his/her own. I'll check back to see if you decide to answer any of my questions, but other than that I'll put this thread to rest. Hope you have a good day. Take it easy.

I have grown step daughters and no I would not be happy if they had decided to take the route of porn as a way of making a living however there are a lot of others career choices I would not had been happy about beside porn.

There is a lot of **** that normally go with the pron industry such as drug used being common but that go to the same degree with high fashion modeling and even to main stream movie industry see the local newspapers for more details concerning the problems of main stream starlets.

I personally think that you have to look at the content of the porn as well. Seeing what turns your partner on can be disturbing and yeah its fantasy but a lot of woman would think "how the hell am I satisfying enough when his porn is so over the edge" ?? It must be an addiction when a person can't stop even if it is upsetting to the spouse. Guess I have to live with it, but in the meantime if a person doesn't respect you enough to draw the line than that sets the pace for a lot of different things and eventually animosity turns into no good! I know I've seen it! Thanks for your input!

I think I was trying to see the opinions of his excuse does it seem resonable or a crock of ****??

My opinion his excuse is a crock of ****, as are most excuses.
If he likes porn, and you are disgusted by it, prepare for a lifetime of excuses and reasons it's your fault.

To put it bluntly, it's a crock of ****! If he is telling the truth, and I doubt that, he's trying to see what he can get away with, and the clear message is that he doesn't trust you. If he's lying, what can I say? He's lying to you before marriage and it will only get worse after you get married.

My wife can till you that looking at porn had not reduce either my desire or enjoyment at having sexual relationships with her or my emotional bonds with her.



If I had read your posting correctly he was not rubbing his viewing of such material in your face far from it.

He should had some rights to privacy even in a married and your invasion of his privacy show more of a lack of respect for him then any lack of respect you are claiming he is showing to you for his private viewing of sexual material you do not care for.

My wife have the pass codes to all my information and yet if she would go searching into my files and then complain about them I would not be happy with her.

On the other hand I can also not see myself monitoring her used of the internet or her email accounts even those I have her passwords given by her to me.

My suggestion is to just stop checking on his used of the internet if that used upset you.

Or she can give him an area of privacy as I would not see any reason or need to justify my own private viewing of porn to my wife or any right of mine to question her for any similar actions on her part.

Sure, that works for some people.
Some others have a different image of life and relationships, thus arises incompatibility.

when will men learn to clear their browser history, guys it will save you a lot of aggravation

also, porn browsing is one of the worst types of browsing for leading you to horrible sites, just because horrible things show up, doesn't mean thats what you were looking for, you can start off looking at pretty innocuous stuff and end up with links leading to midget bondage scat porn

I am not trying to hide anything from my wife but the one computer we share have two users accounts so her actions or mine as far as the desktop setup or programs etc is kept separate.

Lord it is however nice to be in a relationship that is far too mature to run into the kind of problem this thread is dealing with.

After knowing each other since 1985 neither one of us can surprise the other.

And you know this ... how? LOL

BillRM - there's all kinds of porn - soft, medium, hard... looking at a pair of boobies is different from bondage. Don't equate your personal experience with hers. Some of it can be quite disturbing (I've HEARD), so don't jump in so fast with your judgements. And anyway, YOU are not anyone a person would want to emulate.

And I agree with deej - CLEAR YOUR HISTORY and QUIT SNOOPING!!!

As far as browsing on the dark side you are indeed far more likely to run into attacks on your system that your anti-virus software can not handle.

I would suggest windows users look into the free version of a program by the name of sandboxie where your browser is running into a sandbox that can be set to be wiped everytime you shut down the browser.

LOL after taking the time to insult me you then agreed with me that it is not her business what her husband look at or that the best way to deal with the problem of her being upset is for her to stoped invading his privacy.