I don't think I'll post much more about this, hawkeye ... but personally I don't believe any A2Ker owes
others here an explanation about anything to do with their private life. That simply isn't expected of most of us.
I think if dys or Diane wanted some in-depth discussion about their life at the moment then they'd be actively participating in such a discussion. They're not doing that, so I assume they have no wish to.
I agree with you that they are "a big part" of A2K. But that doesn't mean we have some right
to details of their private lives that are personal & private.
That's what I think & I'll leave it at that.