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How to withdraw from accusation as racist?

 
 
Thavam
 
Reply Wed 9 Feb, 2011 05:38 am
My superior was partial in settling a problem between me and my colleauge?
I accused him of being racist by letter. He immediately called for an interview? He was prepared to settle the problem differently provided I remove the word rasism from my letter.
How could I do it without back fire?
 
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jespah
 
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Reply Wed 9 Feb, 2011 06:28 am
@Thavam,
What are you doing calling your boss a racist?

With no facts to go on, we have no way of knowing if this person really is one, or if it was a ploy for you to get a raise or perhaps not be fired, or if it was all a big misunderstanding, or if you misspelled the word rapper and was, instead, saying that your boss lays down fierce rhymes.

So -- what is the back story behind this?
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Wed 9 Feb, 2011 06:37 am
Thayan - what is your definition of "racist"?
Apparently it is NOT the same for your superior.
It is a very strong word and not to be used lightly when escribing the behavior of someone.

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djjd62
 
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Reply Wed 9 Feb, 2011 06:58 am
@Thavam,
a lot depends on how sure you are his actions were racially motivated

if it's not worth losing your job over or working in a perpetually hostile work environment and you think you can trust him to keep his word of no repercussions, retract the statement

if you really think you have been the victim of racial discrimination, you could take it to a labour tribunal of some sort (depending on where you live i guess), even if you win, i'm pretty sure the work situation would be uncomfortable afterwards

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maxdancona
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Reply Wed 9 Feb, 2011 07:15 am
@Thavam,
I don't know what backfire you are worried about. Certainly any backfire from making an accusation of racism is less severe than a backfire of removing one.

The best way to deal with problems is to talk them out to find an agreement that everyone is happy with.

If you feel like you are in a situation you can be treated fairly, and your "superior" is requesting that you remove the charge of racism, then why not? It sounds like he or she is negotiating a reasonable situation. Negotiation is generally a good thing.

And, if your charge of racism was a hasty, there is nothing wrong with apologizing. There is nothing wrong with saying, "I was overly upset and said something out of emotion that I didn't really mean". If this is true, then not only is apologizing the decent thing to do, it is probably the best way for you to end up with a good work situation. And, many of us say things overly strong when we are a stressful situation.

Figure out how to resolve the problem in a way that is best for everyone.
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Thavam
 
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Reply Wed 9 Feb, 2011 07:29 am
Thanks for your time enlightenment.
I am happy that I asked you
God Bless you
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Thu 10 Feb, 2011 05:15 pm
Again - I ask: WHY did you use THAT word?

(Yes, you can apologize, but apparently SOMETHING happened that upset you. Please describe what happened. Perhaps we can find another word for you to use to describe what happened. Don't apolgize until you think about it)
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