@ossobuco,
I'm only a divorced person, not a widow, though I am friends with him (friends of sorts, a continuity in life thing, we talk once every few months.) I may put his photo up in my hallway gallery one of these days - haven't so far and it's been a dozen years - but the wall is pretty crowded. I do have a drawing I did of him up, that I did a million years ago. But hey, not over my bed.
It occurs to me I could have an old lovers' rogues gallery - I could do that when I get rid of the still in sequence albums I have that no other human is interested in.
Picturing my cousins' kids (now in their forties) seeing them and being shocked..
Ok, back to being serious. This photo thing would bother me too. That combined with his calling himself a widow seeming as a defining statement.