I like a guy I never used to get along with, it's still awkward between us. What should I do?

You haven't said anything about WHY you like him, when you don't seem to have anything in common or have any similar opinions or thoughts or feelings. Those can be fairly major strikes against a potential relationship right there.

If Jame Carville and Mary Matalin can maintain a marriage and at the same time disagree strongly and constantly on National TV news shows there hope for any couple.



Bringing up such a situation might be a fun way of giving the guy a hint that you might be willing to overlook his “wrong” opinions.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------

Dear Abby: How do Mary Matalin and James Carville stay married without homicide?
Comments (8) (80)(0)December 27, 2009 | 2:38 pm


Line 5. Indiana, you're on the air with Mary Matalin and James Carville.

Like many other viewers over the years, CNN's John King wondered out loud today about the unlikely political duo. Carville ran Democrat Bill Clinton's unlikely and ultimately successful presidential campaign in 1992 while Matalin ran the unsuccessful reelection campaign for George Bush I.

Yet the politically disparate couple seem to remain happily married with their stark disagreements added atop the normal pressures of married life. Are there lessons in there somewhere for those feuding dummies up on Capitol Hill?

So today on the air King finally asked the question on the minds of many (video below).

Here's the whole brief, enlightening, entertaining and seemingly good-natured exchange from King's "State of the Union":

King: Our viewers have watched throughout the year. And so you come in here exclusively with us. And they often ask, "How can these two disagree so much and get along?"

And so we asked people to text in a question for James and Mary. And here's what we got from Indiana:

"Love you both. Can you show both houses of Congress your secret for compromise?"

Matalin: Well, we're not a democracy. We're an enlightened MOM-archy. That's what we are. [Cross talk.]
Carville: I don't -- it's nothing if -- as long as one person is not arguing, there's nothing to argue about. I don't have a -- [Laughter.]

Carville: I don't have a position on anything domestically. So I just say yes, and then go on and do it. I mean it. I would say the three ingredients to successful marriage is surrender, capitulation and retreat. If you've got those three things -- [Laughter.]

Matalin: Spoken like a true liberal. What a martyr. Faith, family and good wine. That's how we do it.

-- Andrew Malcolm

These love-hate relationships are SO exciting and maybe that's the attraction. Things are never boring.

Personally, I like a guy that is not so argumentative.

It's just so exhausting to have a relationship with someone who zaps your energy . . .

Ah to be 17 again... I had a relationship like this. We hated each other at first, mostly because there was such an attraction but we didn't pick up on it right away... then came the subtle signs... then came the first kiss... then came the I love you... but unfortunately I grew up and he did not.....the joys of being a teenager. How I miss it!

Ok, so you like him, I assume you think about him all the time. You always catch eyes at the same time and then turn away.

You have four options
1) Wait to see if he makes a move... this may make you go crazy if he is too shy
2) Tell him how you feel... he may respond the way you want or he may not... it is all a risk.
3) Wait for the right moment... and kiss him (I am a sucker for movie type loves lol sorry)
4) Nothing (pretty similar to option one actually)

Odds are, if your friends see it from the 3rd party perspective, there is a good chance it is true...

in order to feel love you need to take risk.