Types of Parents

These aren't the "main" styles of parenting.

You have described the extreme opposites
of bad parenting: auhtoritarian and permissive.

Authoritative parenting
The parent is demanding and responsive.

Authoritative parenting, also called 'assertive democratic'[15] or 'balanced' parenting[16], is characterized by a child-centered approach that holds high expectations of maturity. Authoritative parents can understand their children’s feelings and teach them how to regulate them. They often help them to find appropriate outlets to solve problems. "Authoritative parenting encourages children to be independent but still places limits and controls on their actions." [1] "Extensive verbal give-and-take is allowed, and parents are warm and nurturant toward the child."[1] Authoritative parents are not usually as controlling, allowing the child to explore more freely, thus having them make their own decisions based upon their own reasoning.[17]

Authoritative parents set limits and demand maturity, but when punishing a child, the parent will explain his or her motive for their punishment. "Their punishments are measured and consistent in discipline, not harsh or arbitrary. Parents will set clear standards for their children, monitor limits that they set, and also allow children to develop autonomy. They also expect mature, independent, and age-appropriate behavior of children."[1] They are attentive to their children’s needs and concerns, and will typically forgive and teach instead of punishing if a child falls short.[18] This is supposed to result in children having a higher self esteem and independence because of the democratic give-take nature of the authoritative parenting style. This is the most recommended style of parenting by child-rearing experts.
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2.1 Authoritative parenting
2.2 Authoritarian parenting
2.3 Indulgent parenting
2.4 Neglectful parenting

Authoritarian parenting
The parent is demanding but not responsive.

Authoritarian parenting, also called strict,[16] is characterized by high expectations of conformity and compliance to parental rules and directions, while allowing little open dialogue between parent and child. "Authoritarian parenting is a restrictive, punitive style in which parents exhort the child to follow their directions and to respect their work and effort."[1] Authoritarian parents expect much of their child but generally do not explain the reasoning for the rules or boundaries.[19] Authoritarian parents are less responsive to their chidren’s needs, and are more likely to spank a child rather than discuss the problem.[20]

Children with this type of parenting may have less social competence as the parent generally tells the child what to do instead of allowing the child to choose by him or herself.[21] Nonetheless, researchers have found that in some cultures and ethnic groups, aspects of authoritarian style may be associated with more positive child outcomes than Baumrind expects. "Aspects of traditional Asian child-rearing practices are often continued by Asian American families. In some cases, these practices have been described as authoritarian."[1] If the demands pushed too forcefully upon the child, the child will break down, rebel, or run away.

In her popular book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, Amy Chua describes her intense focus on academic achievement, unleashing fury if her children achieve less than an "A" or spend less than three hours practising the violin. She accuses parents who allow sleepovers, or let children choose activities without the prospect of winning a medal, as "not doing their job".[22][23] This can be compared to Concerted cultivation in that she is very ambitious for her children and goes to great lengths to develop them, but she focuses on academic achievement whereas parents employing Concerted cultivation focus on sporting and extracurricular activities.

Authoritative parents set limits and demand maturity