If the lady, being the most reliable source, doesn't wish to answer that, stands to reason nobody else should attempt a reply. Did you ever come across a very famous short story by the title "The Lady or the Tiger?"
? If not, I commend it to your attention - it's essential to continuity of thread <G>
...The more we reflect upon this question, the harder it is to answer. It involves a study of the human heart which leads us through devious mazes of passion, out of which it is difficult to find our way. Think of it, fair reader, not as if the decision of the question depended upon yourself....