Sun 21 Dec, 2003 12:25 am
Forget about it my entire life and furniture and all was taken from me! Man all I have is one pair of jeans now and she has the rest
If she's stolen, then go to the cops. You don't owe her anything.
1. She has now proved to you that she is not the woman you thought she was. Remember this.
2. You picked her out. Remember this.
3. Tomorrow call a District Justice in your area and find out how much you can sue for in Magistrate's Court.
4. Inventory all your missing belongings and total the values. Is this really worth pursuing?
5. Your temper is running high right now--not surprising, your subconscious mind really wants you to realize your ex is toxic.
Do you have a trusted friend or even a sensible parent who can negotiate with your ex for a fair distribution of possessions.
Fred- How did she do that? When you broke up, why didn't you change your locks?
I agree if she has stolen anything, the police need to be called, pronto!
Forgive her in hopes that she'll take you back.
SealPoet, your sarcasm is positively dripping, I like it.
So, she's proven to be a bad person who was only using you. That sounds a lot like the assessments that everyone here has made about her.
Furniture, fortunately, can't be moved far and it can't be resold for a lot (e. g. even a leather couch doesn't have a good resale market. She'd either have to have a yard sale or give it to a consignment store). So go to the cops, and tell them what happened and where she lives. And where her folks live. Yes, this will be involving, but you need your stuff back, yes?
I'm now trying to figure out how your ex got a U-haul to your place and took your things. Were you not there to try to stop her? She couldn't have done it alone (couches are a 2-person job, for example). So, how exactly did this happen? Fred, with all due respect, this sounds a lot like a put-on. Is it? Did this really happen, or are you trying to pull our collective legs in a bid for sympathy? I'm sure no one will be pleased if that's the case.
Anyway, go to the cops. And the campus police, too. I'm sorry this happened, but of course you have recourse.
And once your stuff is back, forget about her. She isn't even worth the effort it takes to cross your mind.
Go to the police and watch them do nothing. You're screwed.
Cops don't care AT ALL about domestic problems and avoid them at all costs. Domestic disputes get more cops shot and killed than anything else.
The courts don't give a damn either.
I repeat, you're screwed. Hell hath no fury like a woman.
Sorry to bear such bad news.
Fred, What your ex took from you is not so much the furniture, but your peace of mind. Which is worth more? I can tell you that ten years from now, that furniture isn't going to be worth squat, but your peace of mind is worth everything. Forget it and move on. You're still young. Don't let this ruin your future. There will be more good and bad experiences ahead of you. In the total scheme of things, this will rate very low in your life experience.
And start cutting back on the drinking.
Fred.....she may have took everything and left only one pair of jeans. BUT....forget it. If nothing else, send her a "Thank you" note with a big ole smiley face on it. And live with it. More than likely, that'll piss her OFF.
makemeshiver33- I disagree. I don't think that Fred should play games with her. The more distance he gets from this woman, the better off that he is. The only one who should be communicating with her is either the police, or Fred's lawyer!
BP is exactly right. The police will get involved if she burns your stuff (arson), or you punch her out. Otherwise, you are on your own. That's why I said to forget about it.
As you have been advised, total up the value of what was stolen, follow that up with a bill to her, and copy to your lawyer.
Another way is, forget it, move on, and never speak to the witch again!
Don't tell me you have a hard time getting over her, that would be like getting over Montezuma's Revenge!
You don't need to punish yourself like that, there's too many people in this world only too willing to do it for you!
Fred, one more thing. Alcohol doesn't induce moods, it magnifies them. If you are going to blame anything for the little incident that led up to this, blame your freaky obsessive jealousy. If this isn't enough to tell you that you should have avoided her altogther beforehand, I don't know what is.
I dont know whether to laugh or cry - but I have to admit, that woman sure had balls !!
Hey Fred forget what happened and use this as an excuse to redo yr pad - as a batchelor pad !!
Hey Cav !