Okay - you're asking me to accept your guidelines which would have compromised my health and fertility over the guidelines in the country I grew up in, which saved my fertility and maybe my life?
Do you not understand what I'm saying?
If I had lived in Australia or England - my lesion and dysplasia would not have been found.
My dysplasia could have progressed to full-blown cancer and I could have lost my reproductive organs or could have DIED!
At the very least, the fact that my cervix was compromised would not have been found and I would not have been able to carry my first and only pregnancy to term - and I'd have lost my son - a baby I PASSIONATELY wanted!
I wouldn't have been able to look at a miscarriage or the loss of a child as some do, 'Oh well - I'll just try again.' I would have been devastated.
The fact that in the US pelvic exams and pap smears are seen as necessary, routine, and not as invasive or unnecessary torture of young women
saved me from a lot of pain and heartache - since from the time I was five years old, my biggest dream in terms of being a woman was having a baby and being a mother.
Okay - maybe other people see it differently. But that's the way I see it.
That's why it was important for me when it came to my daughter.
And I don't understand why, if someone wants a check-up, there is such huge reluctance to let someone have it.
She was consenting. They still said, 'No - we don't think it's necessary'.
That's quite a chance they're taking, especially when I'm standing there telling them I don't know her genetic family history. Maybe her mother and grandmother died of ovarian or cervical cancer.
I'm not talking about what is right for everyone. I'm talking about what is right for my daughter.
It felt like someone telling me I couldn't feed her what I believe is healthy for her because they don't believe it's healthy for her and they want me to feed her what they think is healthy for her.