@FreeDuck,
FreeDuck wrote:
Keep in mind that many people have difficulty with the interviewing/job seeking process. Unless you're a natural salesman, you will struggle to walk the fine line between expressing what you need from an employer and sending the right messages to them about what you offer. You will be nervous, will forget words and names, may even laugh inappropriately. As someone who has always sucked at interviewing and job seeking but who is very good at my job, let me just say that you, the interviewer, can do a lot to communicate your expectations and set the tone so that you are able to truly evaluate whether someone is a good fit for your organization or just a good interviewer. I might even go so far as to say that those who are really good at interviewing are good because they've had a lot of practice -- i.e. they've been looking for work more than they've been working. (No offense Jespah.)
I think it's easy to get off on the power you have as an interviewer. I've been on interview teams with guys who wanted to play psychological intimidation games and quiz the applicant on inane and irrelevant technical trivia. For every sucky candidate I'd wager there are at least two sucky interviewers. That's my 2 cents.
I agree with some of what you way, and disagree with other parts.
I don't believe you have to be a natural salesman to get your point across, and walk a fine line. Just be your natural self.
On the other hand, I do think that some people could "get off" on the power of being the interveiwer. That however is very foolish.
I think it's important to get the candidate to feel at ease, and not like this is some life or death situation.
If someone laughed inappropriately out of nervousness when I was talking with them, I'd very likely make a comment that was intended as humorous, and laugh too, so the other person could recover, laugh naturally, and realize they are talking with another human being.
I know people get nervous. I think it's a shame when the other person preys on that and makes it worse.
If however, I determine that you're handing me a line, I'll let you talk yourself into a corner. I don't see that as a power thing, just letting you be accountable for yourself.
Oh, here's another one.... If I ask a question, and you evade it, I notice. I'm not going to forget the question either, and I'll circle back around to it while making conversation.
Ha! I realized I must sometimes sound like Columbo.
You don't respond in what I consider a complete or honest manner, I'll listen closely to see if you're going to answer it in some other way later. Some people aren't holding back, they just tell things in a different way. If however, I don't get what I need I'll get back to it.
"Oh, just one more thing...."
"You know, I'm not clear on something you were saying earlier...."