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Wed 22 Sep, 2010 12:28 am
Huh! What do I say? Does ethnicity really matter for dating?
I really like this girl who takes the same class as mine and am scared to even go talk to her! Fear? Yes.. scared about the consequences!
What if she laughs at me and tells me to get a life!?
Yes! I'm born and brought up in Asia.. Is it gonna be a issue?
It shouldn't be an issue, and if it is, you're better off without her.
I suggest to you that these sorts of fears--of being rejected, of being laughed at--are common in emotionally charged situations. Just to cheer you up a little more, that feeling never goes away. I'm 60, and if i were looking around for a woman, i'd have the same fears. The best thing to do is to put your fears behind you, and take the chance. Nothing ventured, nothing gained . . .
@livingforlove,
Quote:Does ethnicity really matter for dating?
for a lot of people it does
Quote:What if she laughs at me and tells me to get a life!?
Most likely in that case you will not be going out with her
Quote:Is it gonna be a issue?
You will not find out by asking a2k....if you want to know then ask the girl.
@livingforlove,
hi.......................
you can able to well stay in your relationship as long as she wants, dating but your decision can cause a lot of drama. but don't let her break up your friendship.
If your race is a problem for her, then she is not a very nice person, and you need not worry about her any more. However, the steps you have to take to find out may require courage. But be brave! Faint heart never won fair lady. A thought... if your race is a problem for her, and you just want to tap her, you could try pretending your father is very rich. (Maybe he is?) Money (or the smell of it) can overcome many such obstacles. My own father at first objected to me dating a Jewish girl, but when he found out her father owned a chain of dry cleaning shops he found it quite easy to rearrange things in his mind.
@contrex,
That's funny! In Asian cultures, that happens all the time. Money talks in many languages.
@contrex,
contrex wrote:
Faint heart never won fair lady.
No woman loves or even likes a pushing, dominating male.
A faint heart is far, far better than a a heartless, cruel, dominating heart.
( Take that to the bank!)
@contrex,
contrex wrote:
If your race is a problem for her, then she is not a very nice person,... My own father at first objected to me dating a Jewish girl...
If the girl in question isn't a very nice girl, ( as you've said ) would you then come to the conclusion, that your very own father wasn't a very nice person?
@Miller,
And there's nothing in between, huh?
Talk about a straw man.
@Miller,
Miller wrote:
would you then come to the conclusion, that your very own father wasn't a very nice person?
I came to that conclusion a long time ago, when I was aged about 7 to be exact.
@Miller,
Miller wrote:
contrex wrote:
Faint heart never won fair lady.
No woman loves or even likes a pushing, dominating male.
A faint heart is far, far better than a a heartless, cruel, dominating heart.
( Take that to the bank!)
Way to misunderstand and be wildly off-topic all at the same time.
@livingforlove,
Sweetheart - in relationships with prospective friends and romance - stop seeing race. See people. Hope that others do as well - and go for it.
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