Overly Competitive Coworker ... help!

Why are you so hung up with what she does? You're wasting your time on energy that has nothing to do with your work performance or ratings.

Even if what you say is true, most supervisors see through bull **** like hers - but that's if you're reporting what has happened is true. I doubt it.

Hi, Cicerone Imposter.

Thanks for your response. You are right. I should just focus on my work and leave it alone. No I haven't reported it. I'm thinking I might, just to ward off any possible escalation on her part. Perhaps she'll settle down and stop.

I've worked with that and don't have an answer for you. I generally avoid people like that like the plague. I would just say as little as possible to her, not talk about her, and just keep your head down and do your job. I don't think if you engage her that there's any way that you will win - 'The squeaky wheel gets the oil' is often true so if she has reason to belittle you etc, people might listen. Therefore, stymy her. Just stay out of her way. People will eventually see what's what and judge her accordingly; it's just that sometimes it takes a while.

I worked with someone once who was much the same, only she had no reason to be jealous, other than her new boyfriend and I had been good friends for years. We worked together for a while and one night, at a company dinner, she sat there and zinged one-liner putdowns at me all night. I didn't respond once. I just let the silence grow and began eating again, so her comment was the last one in the air. I don't know what anyone really thought about all that, but remember, whatever comes out of her mouth is about HER, not YOU. Take some comfort in that - we are all our own walking advertisements.

Another co-worker did mention to me the next day that she looked really petty and everybody wondered what was up, but since I didn't respond, they just attributed the problem to her.

Funny thing - I'm getting married in 3 weeks and my friend is, of course, bringing her

Thanks! Like it. Whatever comes out of her mouth is about her. I'd have a hard time avoiding her, but I can do my best not to engage or respond. Silence speaks volumes, right?

Congrats on your upcoming nuptials! I'm so very happy for you!

Here's a cute video about competition in the workplace:

http://hypesuccess.com/?p=236

that was funny, thanks! lol

Now, that's funny! A small a2k group of us went to Second City to watch a show one of my visits to Chicago. Hilarious!

What's the latest on your situation, dupre? Are things better?

I missed this the first time around.

Do ya'll have the same manager? My advice is to go have a sit-down with your boss.

Hello. It's been so long since I've been here! Well, she got promoted and then she got fired. That was several years ago and she is still not working anywhere. I am still working in the same role, but have since received raises amounting to almost double what I was making back then. And, by the way, I did take the advice here and ignored it, was pleasant, and stayed focused on my job.

What goes around comes around, right dupre?

Hey, dupre, good to see you.

I guess so and sometimes you just get to see that. I think, sometimes, my life in the city is so fast and I don't always get to see someone's story unfold. I get snippets and hardly ever a full perspective. I have to live on a kind of faith in what's simply right and kind of hope for good outcomes, or a sense of justice that supports my effort to be consistent and do the right thing. All in all, of course I wish her well. She is younger than me and I don't know her whole story and what made her that way. I wish her well and some growth. I know I've had my growth issues too over the years. And I probably annoyed someone else along the way.

Sounds like you are doing well, and I am glad to hear it.

Hi, Roger! I hope you are doing well, too. It's been so long...

omg it's dupre! How have you been? It's been exactly five years since you were last here....good to see you back, dupre!