Bisexual Tendancies / Kink

I don't think that people become kinkier--or even more adventurous--with age. I think most people become more self-confident and less worried about the Mrs. Grundies of the world.

Kinky is culturally defined. Your exotic, erotic, experiment is probably some other culture's staid bedroom yawner.

Who is Mrs. Grudy? I agree with self confidence and seeking what you disire. When your young it's all about getting action, but recently I've seen a several reality tv shows featuring kink. It's becoming more mainstream and most of the participants are in their forties.

So, then I guess the question should be what is your defination of kink or bedroom yawners?

cinco at best

I'll check with the next missionary I meet.

Mrs. Grundy was the prune faced teacher in the Archie comics. Still is, actually

Wasn't Jughead stuffing her?

MRS GRUNDY
GRUNDY, MRS. the name ef an imaginary English character, who typifies the disciplinary control of the conventional proprieties of society over conduct, the tyrannical pressure of the opinion of neighbors on the acts of others. The name appears in a play of Thomas Morton, Speed the Plough (1798), in which one of the characters, Dame Ashfield, continually refers to what her neighbor Mrs Grundy will say as the criterion of respectability. Mrs Grundy is not a character in the play, but is a kind of Mrs Harris to Dame Ashfield.


http://10.1911encyclopedia.org/G/GR/GRUNDY_MRS.htm

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Ceili, I do not normally recommend books I have not read but this review in todays New York Times by Jeffry Bolster of "Over the Edge of the World" By LAURENCE BERGREEN, a history of Magellan's circumnavigation of the globe makes my point about sex and culture.

Reviw by" JEFFREY BOLSTER New York Times Review of Books 12/7/03
http://www.nytimes.com/2003/12/07/books/review/07BOLSTET.html?pagewanted=1
"Good history relies on good sources, and every biographer of Magellan has leaned heavily on the journal kept by Antonio Pigafetta, the pious yet bawdy Venetian scholar who chronicled the mission. Bergreen, the author of biographies of Al Capone, Louis Armstrong and Irving Berlin, clearly has a special affinity for Pigafetta. ''Instead of embellishing timeworn legends about the world'' in the tradition of writers from Pliny to Marco Polo, Bergreen notes, Pigafetta chose to evaluate phenomena in more empirical terms. Moreover, ''his narrative anticipates a modern sensibility, in which self-doubt and revelation play roles.'' An abundance of other diaries, depositions and royal records inform Bergreen's finely etched historical reconstruction, but nothing comes close to matching Pigafetta's passionate academic interest in linguistics, botany and anthropology -- including sex. Pigafetta's frank diary detailed sailors' orgies on tropical beaches, his own intimacies with women on the island of Cebu and Filipinos' sexual practices that were, in European eyes, outrageous. ''Pigafetta's clinical description contained enough detail to suggest that he observed the islanders having intercourse,'' Bergreen writes, ''and he came away both excited and dismayed by what he saw.'' Pigafetta knew that his prurient interest in pierced penises, genital stretching and coitus arranged specifically to provide pleasure to females would never be condoned by the church. Indeed, Catholic clergymen eradicated or drove underground many of these practices in the decades that followed, making Pigafetta's account of cultural diversity in the Age of Discovery valuable to historians and anthropologists. It works for marketing professionals too".

I totally agree with this statement. But I want to stay away from God, more interested in the Devil at this point
I've read books on the Marquis de Sade, Kama Sutra, victorian erotica ect. I realize our 'modern' lifestyle is anything but...however, it just seems to me that more and more middle aged people are out discovering their darker sides. Couples taking vacations to Swingstock, S&M is almost de rigueur in movies and tv and porn is the accountable for 50% of all internet traffic - I read that somewhere, don't know if I can back it up.

I'm just curious, that's all, do you think ALL people have kinky or Bi-sexual obsessions/tendencies or not?

I can spin my tounge all the way around, does that count?

depends on the backdrop

I don't think ALL people have kinky or bi-sexual tendencies, a tendency being a predisposition to think in a particular way. I think in the info age that we now live in, we just learn more about what has been around forever. Society in general is exposed to more invitations to be sexually adventurous which may lead to kinkiness and/or bi-sexual wonderment. I don't know if the tendency has to be there before hand, I think not.

Some people don't think about sex at all, and some who do think about it just don't want to have sex. On the flip side of that there are the sex addicts, it's like the number one addiction, I think? I don't know if it's the case, but I'd say they'd take sex just about any way, any how. I don't think people get kinkier with age per se.

I agree with Acquiunk, kinky is in the eye of the beholder(eeeew!), but the most outrages thing I've seen recently are the mechanical ******* machines which one can purchase. Theoretically, they are made for women because they are insertion devices, 'butt' I suppose men have tried them out. These things can quinch any insatiable appetite because they never get tired or soft. They can't cuddle after though.

So many people get off on so many different things, Its hard to tell.

Whats kinky to one may be small potatoes to another. And those very potatoes may be a massive turn on to someone else... (ok, bad joke).

In any case, from what I've been through, it seems everyone has their own little "kink" and if/when they get bored with that, they try something else to see if *that* turns them on just as much. Pretty healthy to me. I've heard plenty of stories of married couples who just wanted to see if something else might add a little "spice" to their lives, and either they like it (and do it more), or they don't.

As long as it doesn't cause REAL pain or demean a person, its all good to me. :wink: