So why do you "abhor" them?
Do you think not liking your parents is unique to adopted children?
Apparently, the strains of parental dynamics can be very stressful.
I (kind of) accidentally took a psychology course involved with this in the 1980s,
from Dr. Nathaniel Brandon (ex-friend of Ayn Rand).
I took the course because I considered him to be a superbrilliant psychologist,
some of whose work I had read.
I suffered from the residual effects of having been obsessed
with a certain young lady for quite a few years. I hoped that he 'd help to relieve that.
, the course was mostly turned toward residual parental problems,
which Brandon himself said that he suffered.
Anyway, at one point, he had everyone (maybe 400 of us)
lie down on the carpet and we were told to imagine that we
were on our death beds, in hospitals. The door opens, and
one parent enters, hence: its now or never for getting feelings
off of your chest. After a while the parents switch places.
The first leaves and the other enters; same scenario.
I heard terrible shrieks
of obscene language
complaining of parental interaction or absence thereof.
By co-incidence, a few years before that, I had that happen for real
except turned around
in that it was my mother on her death bed
in a hospital, but instead of
all that hostile acrimony n character assassination,
I thanked my mom for being so wonderful
a mother, SUPERB
others, with whom I coud compare.