I was just having his discussion with some of the men in my class.
One of them had used the 'slogan' : Treat them mean - keep them keen.
I'd never heard it before, so I asked what they were talking about. They explained to me that in order to keep a woman 'keen' a man was more likely to be successful if he treated her 'mean'.
I laughed and asked for an example of what they considered 'mean'- were they talking about physical and emotional abuse - what?
One guy gave an example of going out to a bar with a woman, but making sure that she saw as he eyed other women or taking a woman out on a date and then spending the majority of the time talking to another woman, etc.
They asked me what I would do if someone did that to me and I said, 'I'd tell the guy - Well, it's been fun - see you later - and go home.
But we talked about why a woman might put up with that sort of behavior and knowing the reasons (lack of self-esteem, etc.) whether or not it was incumbent on the man not to engage in such hurtful behavior.
And as the conversation progressed - it hit all of us at about the same time. A lot of women accept behavior like that from a man because she believes SHE will be the one who will be able to change him. It's an ego thing. Instead of a lack of self-esteem - it's almost like an overload of self-esteem- she takes it on as a challenge of some sort.
I think this could be true about some women.
No me though - I wouldn't sit through one dinner where the guy ignored me. Why would anyone want to win such a rude asshole?