why do my fiance treat me like things are not serious?

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I have a man that I have loved for over 13 years. We have mutual feelings for each other but the problem is........

When he is around his family. He act like we are not in love with each other. When we are to ourselves. He tells me how crazy he is about me but when he is around other people, I get confused because he act like our love is an undercover affair. I Hate It. I stay confused and have to tell myself that he loves me and that I am thinking too much of this. Sometimes I think I am too emotional and when he is not acting the same way as I am, I get discouraged.

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@wisdom,

Do you have a ring or other token of being engaged? It's not about the token, of course, but what I am driving at is -- is it out there that you are engaged? Because if it's not, then it appears he is hiding something. Er, someone. You.

And then the question becomes, from whom?

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@wisdom,

hmmmmmmmm... are you in the US...

may I ask what culture you are from, if that's not too presonal. It could be relevant in aiding people to assist you in answering the question.

Do you ask him why he "hides" in public? If so, what does he say. !3 years is a long time to stay hidden.... not very nice if you ask me - but that's my projections so ignore that.

Talk if you can and good luck - lots of posters to offer some good advice.

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What do you mean?

Maybe he comes from a culture that does not believe in public display of affection. So he may not touch or cuddle you in public or in front of his family or the guys.

What kind of display do you want? Hand holding? Arm around you?

PS If he is not talking to you at all, then THAT would be ignoring you.

If he is not as affectionate as you would like, it may be because he is not comfortable showing those kinds of feelings in public.

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@PUNKEY,

PUNKEY wrote:

If he is not as affectionate as you would like, it may be because he is not comfortable showing those kinds of feelings in public.

Have we met? I don't recognize the name. . . .

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@roger,

I've met punkey, she's a good newish poster.
(waves to punkey)
(oh, wait, waves to roger)

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@jespah,

No I do not have a ring. It is just custom with no jewelry so it is mutual. It has just occured to me that maybe he is not ready but he just dont want me to go anywhere. I love him but I am getting tired.

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@roger,

I am new. This is my first post.

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