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my x partner could be seeing someone whom i know very well

 
 
Reply Wed 4 Aug, 2010 12:07 pm
well me and my partner have a young son and we split up over 8 months ago and since then she has cut all her ties with me through a solicitor and she is seeing someone who she could have only got to know through me...since i have come to the conclusion she maybe seeing this person they are concealing it very well I'm not sure what i can do but i do know that it cant be good for my son and that she is getting on with her life as i am but the fact she is seeing someone i have known for a long time really doesn't click and I'm wondering what i can do?
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jespah
 
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Reply Wed 4 Aug, 2010 12:19 pm
@bluesky123,
Nothing.

You are no longer together. Who cares how she met this guy? Would you feel better or worse if she met him at the grocery store, or through a dating service. Or, gasp, a bar??!??!!?

The bottom line is, you only have cause for concern if there is the possibility of harm (physical or emotional) to your son.

Otherwise, you must let it go.

This is the "moving on" part of the process.
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Intrepid
 
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Reply Wed 4 Aug, 2010 12:20 pm
@bluesky123,
Why do you think it is not good for your son? Is there something that you know about this man that would cause you to think this?

What do you want to do and why do you want to do it?
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Ragman
 
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Reply Wed 4 Aug, 2010 12:21 pm
@bluesky123,
You can do nothing as long as your child is OK. What is the problem with your son? what sort of problem is happening? What proof have you of the child's welfare being hurt? Or are you just guessing?

You had a child together but you're not in a relationship any longer. So, put it in the past and get over it. She's got the right to see whomever she wants - regardless of whomever introduced them.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Wed 4 Aug, 2010 12:24 pm
Your headline said it was someone you know "very well.'

So . . . just ask him?!!

Are you afraid you are going to lose that friendship?
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HexHammer
 
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Reply Thu 5 Aug, 2010 10:31 pm
@bluesky123,
bluesky123 wrote:

well me and my partner have a young son and we split up over 8 months ago and since then she has cut all her ties with me through a solicitor and she is seeing someone who she could have only got to know through me...since i have come to the conclusion she maybe seeing this person they are concealing it very well I'm not sure what i can do but i do know that it cant be good for my son and that she is getting on with her life as i am but the fact she is seeing someone i have known for a long time really doesn't click and I'm wondering what i can do?
You are being overly jealous, forget about it, she's not yours to possess, it's kinda creepy the way you think.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Fri 6 Aug, 2010 05:09 am
When ex spouse, lovers or girl/boyfriends take up with someone else - especailly someone that you know - it can bring up all kinds of emtions.

The biggest one is the finalilty of it all.

This is NOT a betrayal of you; she simply has moved on.

You need to, too.
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