I find this all very curious. Its as if it hasn't been thought through.
If and when I stop coming here, I'm going to <drum roll please
>: Just Stop coming here. Long winded speeches and departure pot-shots just make someone look like a whiny-boy and serve to devalue what contribution they have made.
The fact of the matter is most folks don't much care who comes or goes. Sure, we all would like to believe that our presence is valued and our loss would be felt. But I've been doing this "online correspondence" thing for a long, long time (started running my first BBS back in '86) and one thing I've learned is that people come, people go and in the end it really doesn't matter much. The reason for this has to do with the disembodied, disposable nature of electronic "relationships". We can click into or out of existence and, truthfully, very few (if anyone) gives a frog's fat ass. While this sounds rather negative, I believe it to be a 'neutral' truth of this medium. The "risk" (or "problem") stems from the social nature many of us have: The human social aspect is built - over the eons - upon corporeal presence (as is our communication, which explains why over 90% of 'meaning' is transferred nonverbally). And while we consciously realize we're not face-to-face, communication tends to be emotionally invested/loaded as if we were
Its understandable, though, the Big Goodbye. I mean, each time I post or write, its a bit of a personal experience; an "exposing" of what's in my head. So sure this will breed some sensitivity - but over time I've realized that this is just from MY own head. To assume that others give it that kind of value is just narcisisstic mental masturbation.
ok ok, I'll shut up now