@ms1,
Wow...marriage; yeah tell me about it. But it can be just fantastic in a good number of ways
if both of the bond partners work together at it. I guess I'd have to say that I like getting married, though (maybe?); I've done it twice now . . . hee, hee, hee. . .
Well,
ms1, if you are actually and honestly looking for advice (
and please keep in mind that this is the internet) one would expect to have a little more information to work with.
'
Children,' tells me it's been more than at least three years (reasonably), and '
scolding, beating, teaching bad manners to,' tell me it is thinkable to consider some six to seven, or more, years of marriage now. For the '
love juice' in the general mate bond situation, around four years is the international statistic for drop off. This will allow us to think that this '
keeping the love alive' deal will now need effort . . . but, unfortunately, the agape, philias, and eros of love, is not all there is. There is money, yes, and sexual/libido, that's true too, but there are things like
natural changes in personality (which may often enough this simple fact of aging, at other times possible due to other central nervous system developments, and so on).
While we have almost nothing to work with here, I would presently very strongly suggest two
BIG things:
be honest and open about it with your partner, without negative emotion, nor efforts to point fingers, and
open the communication lines by
reaching out first, expressing your concern openly --again without negative emotions or pointing fingers).
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It could also be suggested that one good way to prepare for this, is to sit down and write out a heart-felt letter, expressing your concern regarding the family unit, the people you two are responsible for directing towards life (children), and the lovers' relationship and bond which you two had formed, seal it in a envelope, and put it away somewhere . . . without sending or giving it to her . . . then, with that off your shoulders, start the communication [and don't expect miracles nor sudden and quick results...give her a little time])