Talking in code!

Hang around here, Turing.

Strange as it seems, most of us are still learning on the communicating. It can get confusing, with much impoliteness, and, more confusing, with politeness - some of that straightforward, and some of it mocking, and, apparently most confusing, well meant mocking.

Please don't be dismayed.

I don`t mean discussion in this board. I work in finance, restate, life , and consulting firm. It is a tough job. I have to read people, deal with people, and connect with people. Every thing has a subtle point, a subtext that is intellectually demanding.

Have you been tested for Aspergers?

It sounds kind of like that to me.

Typical adult symptoms
More males than females have Asperger syndrome. While every person who has the syndrome will experience different symptoms and severity of symptoms, some of the more common characteristics include:

Average or above average intelligence
Inability to think in abstract ways
Difficulties in empathising with others
Problems with understanding another person's point of view
Hampered conversational ability
Problems with controlling feelings such as anger, depression and anxiety
Adherence to routines and schedules, and stress if expected routine is disrupted
Inability to manage appropriate social conduct
Specialised fields of interest or hobbies.

The emotions of other people
A person with Asperger syndrome may have trouble understanding the emotions of other people, and the subtle messages that are sent by facial expression, eye contact and body language are often missed. Because of this, a person with Asperger syndrome might be seen as egotistical, selfish or uncaring. These are unfair labels, because the affected person is neurologically unable to understand other people's emotional states. They are usually shocked, upset and remorseful when told their actions were hurtful or inappropriate.

You are making the assumption that they know what they want ! Just as your motivations and self -perceptions are constantly changing, so are theirs. Effective communication is often clarified by negotiation over time, and must make allowances for transient shifts of "self" by either party.

I know what you mean. Too bad that once you think you've figured out the real meanings, you find out not everyone is using the same code.