@hamilton,
Another set of questions might be "What do we mean by 'nothingness' or 'existence'?"--not "What is the essence of 'nothingness' or 'existence'?"After all, we invented the terms; we didn't find their references.
I've suggested before somewhere in these threads that the original kind of question (paradigmatically speaking) was not "What IS a "puppy?"; it was "What shall we CALL a young dog?"
At the same time we do have--or think we have--experiences that we can name, for various reasons, "emptiness" and "form"--as do the Buddhists, for their reasons (keeping in mind that the Heart Sutra declares that "form is exactly emptiness and emptiness is exactly form". But that's another problem.