What is love?

And its good for the woody...

Love as a form of relationship is also a relationship... All relationships have their politics, even the most simple of relationships in appearance... In the proper order of things negotiation comes first, and specific performance follows...Get these out of order, and trouble is bound to result....

Certainly, if people cannot talk before love making they will not be able to talk afterwards... They just have to remember that in a sense, all talk about any other subject is the second intention as much as talk about talk is the second intention....

We all want that moment of Love... We think that for women, that it should mean more... In fact, for all people it should mean more, that not only love, but all things human have been robbed of meaning, and it is the challenge of all of us in the stuff and nonsense of our lives leading up to the act of love, that we give each other meaning, and recognize how we have all been robbed of meaning, and vow NEVER to do to our lovers what life does to all of us against our wills...Inevitably, your wife, or woman will tell you what she wants in her house, in her home, and in her life...It might be as simple as putting the toilet seat down, or cleaning it once a century or so; but doing such as we are desired to do, even if it has no particular meaning to us, is often enough to earn us love...

And can you really earn it??? Can you deserve IT, sex, love. intimacy...We take so much and trash so much in life, and we learn to devalue sex; but it is all a part of the self negation we practice in youth to defuse our fear of the future... Consider all the treasures in the bank of a woman, and whether her desire to give her self lessen her value??? Can you reproduce yourself without her??? Perhaps you do not want that now, but sterility, so you can take and trash...Can anyone else feel as she feels, smell with her scent, laugh with her music, or dance the dance of life with every movement??? How can a man taste a girls skin, and see the world through her hair and trash her, and the experience of her intimacy???It is demeaning... To look at the body of a woman as a living toy is demeaning...Can demeaning come from meaning, or is it only more of the same, the expression of a meaningless life???

There are many things an old man knows that a kid will never understand...But the reason for trashing love which is so hard to come by no old man will ever know....Only the hatred of life that comes with youth can explain it...Nothing can justify it... It is a cruel trick life plays on a man, that while he can be a good lover he does not know how to love, and when he can no longer serve love as she deserves then he can know love...

Two qualities are required of a man to love...One is perfect health, mental and physical.... Since youth is madness, no youth can love...The other quality a man needs to love is courage, and youth hides fears behind a thousand brave bluffs... Only the ability to face death, or anything less than death with perfect abandon; the ability to think once and live up to that thought, to step over that line marked eternity, and leave it all else behind will make a man fit for love... The love a woman isn't for sissys... She is life.. She is Aphrodite... Do you think you are man enough to hang on to her??? Do you have the guts to try???Bare your heart to her blade...Nothing can spare you the pain life holds for you...Your only defense is your sense... Drop the armor, the impedimenta, the pretense... Nothing can save you from love... Abandon hope... Embrace love; And love will save your soul...

Think of the price, too often paid by others and in pain for myself to learn what love is.... What every one should begin to learn in the crib some never learn... For them all my pity...

Jesus said the two shall become one. Is that love? I don't know. All I have ever experienced was a thing that was somewhat conditional. I think. Maybe someone out there knows what that means. I do not.


So, what is love? I don't know. I don't have a clue. I am asking, even begging for someone to tell me what love is. Because, I don't know.

I'll offer my opinion. Love is balance. Love is the God energy of the universe expressed in balance sexed opposites of One thing, (GOD).


So from where I sit, love is balance and what is out of balance, love brings into balance. Balance and Love being two very important keywords.

I think the love of two individuals is nothing more than the obliteration of two isolated individuals to form one single individual. To fully love another, you must become them as they become you. Without that unity, there cannot be true love between two separate individual identities. In other words, love is the true opposite of pure indifference.

Do you really want to have an intellectualisation of love? If you understood it better would that mean you are better at loving?
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Yeah. We humans are trying to intellectualize stuff that's better left un-intellectualized. Can't we just appreciate what love is without the rigmarole of trying define what exactly it is.

And if love does not leave us with more energy than it takes then it is not love....

(some couple don't give heir partner room to breath, lol).

The Greeks have many different words for love. There is agape, eros, philia, storge, and xenia. Eros has to do with the physical attraction and sexual longing of another. Agape is a pure, ideal type of love (rather than physical attraction). I think your talking about one of these two. If you want to find out more on agape then I suggest you read 1st Corinthians 13. In Genesis where is said the two shall become one flesh is the result of love. Love is what holds that completed image together. Without the other; one is incomplete. So, you could say that love is the force that holds two together into one. How you love is another story (some couple don't give heir partner room to breath, lol).

From my perspective, the Greeks had a lot of names for love; but they did not have a clue....

Then what does that make us Americans? We only have one word for love and we use it so freely that it has lost it's meaning. I find that many people spell L-O-V-E as L-U-S-T.

"I find that many people spell L-O-V-E as L-U-S-T."

Some people do have the two confused. But there're also those who don't.

In short, with genuine Platonic love, the beautiful or lovely other person inspires the mind and the soul and directs one's attention to spiritual matters. One proceeds from recognition of another's beauty, to appreciation of Beauty as it exists apart from any individual, to consideration of Divinity, the source of Beauty, to love of Divinity.

We are smart enough not to buy in to the oldest myth running; love. Fiction created by people to keep them from jumping out of windows.

I am certain we have a great number of words for love, like avarice, or patriotism... We even have a discriptive word for some one who can love no one but himself: An AsssHoollle...
But let me not disagree with you completely...Many do say: making love when they are trying to do some one an injury, taking from them and giving as little as possible... None the less, how we define any word, that is, how we find the meaning of essentially moral concepts, is the work of a life time... It was Voltaire who said: If you would talk with me, define your terms... The dictionary is only a handy starting place for a definition, and I own many... But we define these terms in the course of our lives, just as we define the meaning of life with our own life, and not by any other...And when it is finally defined, it is ended...