Stay or let it go??

Move on! I've been am watching a girl do this to a guy these days, my only advice to him is to move on as well.

Indecisive people are rude, they hold people's emotions hostage while they decide what's best for themselves.

My advice is always to drop them and help them make up their minds by removing one of teh options. Anywho, do wait till some of the more experienced people here opine and good luck.

thanks craven

I agree with Craven. This person is taking advantage of your forgiving nature. You don't need this, and you don't deserve it. What you deserve (which is what everyone deserves) is someone who will be there even when the times aren't so fun and aren't so good, not someone who's only around when it suits them.

Fred--

Consider the Playground Artiste and the Yoyo. Which one is controlling the string? Which one gets respect?

Who is holding the string in your on-again-off-again situation? Do you respect yourself?

Noddy I do respect myself its just AHHHHH I wish I wasnt so madly deeply head over heals in love with her!

Fred--

When she comes by again with an itch to hop into bed and a need to bolster her ego, be firm. Explain that you still love her, but the hopelessness of the situation is wreaking havoc with your emotions.

Because you care so deeply about her, you want her to have her freedom. Then show her the door--and lock it behind her.

Make it clear that you don't want reruns--you want true love with no games playing and you won't settle for shallow substitutes.

Love is good. Being used in the name of love is not. If you are still madly, passionately and hopelessly in love with this woman, don't allow her to act like a bitch.

I agree. This can't be good for you at all. If I were you, I'd move on.

I've piped in on several of Fred's threads regarding this and I agree. Dump her, and write creative, inspiring works about the pain. I'm actually not kidding here. Does wonders for the healing process.

Re: Stay or let it go??


Answers:
Hasn't happened, but I would remain true to my self.
You stay, it is your house, you "move on" in your mind.
No, definitely not.
Save yourself.

I offer this advice... if you enjoy the sex, keep it to that, but dump her in your mind. That will make it easier to dump the sex later. Do not spend any more money on this woman. Find someone else and spend it on her. Do not spend any more time worrying about her, but if you must, then limit it to a nasty time of day, when you're grumpy anyway.

When someone loves you, they don't put you through this kind of turmoil, they are more concerned with your happiness than their own. That's how you tell if it is true love.

My most Distinguished Guest and Learned Friend,
The pallid hare that runs before the day
Having brought your earnest counsels to an end
Now have I somewhat of my own to say:
That it is folly to be sunk in love,
And madness plain to make the matter known,
There are no mysteries you are verger of;
Everyman's wisdoms these are, and my own.
If I have flung my heart unto a hound
I have done ill, it is a certain thing;
Yet breathe I freer, walk I the more sound
On my sick bones for this brave reasoning?
Soon must I say, "Tis prowling Death I hear!"
Yet come no better off, for my quick ear.
E.St.V.Millay

Something about the question "What do you do when a lover keeps 'coming' and going" makes me laugh