This is a very timely subject for me as my daughter was married just last Saturday.
Choosing a song for our dance was a lot more difficult than I expected it to be.
I began with "Do You Know What It Means To Miss New Orleans," by Louis Armstrong which, while not a Father/Daughter dance classic, was special to me because I used to sing it with my daughter when she was a little girl.
I found, however, that it wasn't all that special to her. She remembered singing it but not in the way I did. I wanted a song that was meaningful to both of us though and so embarked on my search.
First I googled "Father Daughter Wedding Song" and came up with numerous lists that contained just about all of the song others have cited. Some I was familiar with and the others I tracked down on-line to hear and read the lyrics.
I felt that many of them, like "Butterfly Kisses" were a bit too cloying and others, like John Mayer's "Daughters," were too quirky and didn't really fit the event.
In going through the lists and reading posted comments, I got the impression that in most cases the daughter was picking the song and they all seemed to go for the really sappy ones with "Daddy" somewhere in the lyrics, so I suggested to my daughter that she choose.
This was met with outrage from my daughter and my wife, but in the process of them telling me how it was my duty, my daughter let on that she didn't want me to pick a sappy song with "Daddy" somewhere in the lyrics.
This threw me for a loop because I had just decided on "Cinderella" by Steve Chapman. Back to square one.
Eventually my daughter took pity on me and started making suggestions, none of which struck a chord with me.
At one point she suggested "I Love To See You Smile," by Randy Newman, but my in-laws had recently used that one as their song at their 50th wedding anniversary party, and it seemed weird for us to use it.
Thinking Randy Newman though, I focused on the inappropriately named "A Memo For My Son." This was another song we sang when the kids were little and it brought fond memories:
Quote:What have you done to the mirror?
What have you done to the floor?
Can't I go nowhere without you?
Can't I leave you alone any more?
I know you don't think much of me
But someday you'll understand
Wait'll you learn how to talk, baby
I'll show you how smart I am
A quitter never wins
A winner never quits
When the going gets tough
The tough get going
Maybe you don't know how to walk, baby
Maybe you can't talk none either
Maybe you never will, baby
But I'll always love you
I'll always love you
You can see from the lyrics that it really isn't gender specific, but I was uneasy with the choice. Never-the-less, I was running out of time and so picked it.
The day that my daughter brought home her gown she would not let me see it until the wedding which I thought it was a tradition that applied only to the groom, but she insisted that she wanted to surprise me.
Very few little boys grow up dreaming about how they will look on their wedding day and the selection of the tux takes about 15 minutes, but I realized that for my daughter who, quite stereotypically, grew up wanting to be one of the Disney princesses, how she looked on her wedding day was very important to her, as was my reaction.
(I know ladies...Duhh!)
As luck would have it, my wife and I watched American Idol the night that Harry Connick Jr was the "mentor," and most of the songs the contestants were singing were old standards. One of the kids sang "The Way You Look Tonight," and I found myself tearing up. I decided then to switch songs and use Michael Buble's version.
It turned out to be the perfect choice. My daughter was not only truly beautiful, but she was radiantly happy and I will never forget the way she looked that night.
I'm sure now, that just about any song I picked would have been perfect, because, frankly, I don't remember even hearing the song. The few minutes we spent together on the dance floor were so filled with emotion that I choke up just thinking about them.
In any case, it was a beautiful wedding with a beautiful bride, and it was so exciting and emotional that it joined the four greatest times of my life the birth of my three kids and my own wedding.
All the best for your event.