Help me_Pls advice

Judging by your posting, English isn't your first language, so you're probably not in America, but in America, and apparently, accordeing to Google, in most other countries, it is considered unethical, and sometimes illegal, for a doctor to have sex with a patient, among other reasons because of the power imbalance and because of the emotional vulnerability of people who need the doctor's services. So if he's your family doctor as you say, he's acting unethically--and clearly callously--and he's exploiting you. His actions are on his head, not yours, and he sounds like a heartless jerk at base, no matter what your family's past history with him is. It may be hard, but find another doctor who's not a self-centered ass.

You do realise America consists of two continents, many islands, hundreds of languages and several racial groups ?

well, no, those are usually "the Americas", or "North America", or "South America", but generally plain "American" refers to someone from the US, and the vast majority of us are monolingual. That was in there purely to locate the context about which I was speaking, since I had no knowledge of where she was from, nor is it in her profile, and I had no knowledge of the position on doctor-patient relations in her country, tho according to Google it's pretty much the same most places.

And perhaps -- call me crazy -- a geography lesson is not what DK2010 was looking for when she posted.

Well -- to DK2010 -- the guy's a jerk. He's messing around with your feelings. But I've gotta give him a few points for some honesty. At least he's saying (and fairly quickly, too) that he's not into you. He doesn't have feelings for you and is only in it for fun. By the way, when he made it clear that he couldn't marry you (and for some reason that you apparently didn't really register), that should've been your first tip off that he was not going into this relationship for anything other than physical stimulus and response.

So you are left with too many feelings flying around and are understandably hurt. And if I am understanding you, it seems that you're trying to figure out a way to not let it kick you into a depression. That is a legitimate concern (I'm reading from your post that you've had depression before).

But there is a difference between feeling sad and rocketing into depression. I think that the end of any love affair (or the shattering of your expectations) is a legitimate reason to feel sad. The feeling itself is not bad or wrong. Hell, it's expected, even. But depression goes beyond that and, essentially, you are giving over a major medical issue if you lapse into depression over this loser. Truth is, he's just not worth it.

You don't say whether you're being treated for depression, and if you're being treated by him then he's truly acting despicably. Either way, get yourself a new doctor and tell him or her what you've written to us. See if you can get treatment (which doesn't have to be drugs if you don't want them -- it can be just talking) and help to get through the way you are feeling and your overall concerns about depression.

You deserve a happy life. And you deserve to not be deceived and hurt by people with a power imbalance that they are exploiting, people in authority who are using you. Fortunately, not everyone in a position of trust abuses it. Find someone to trust with this issue and work through these feelings safely.

DK2010

Be a big girl and realize what has happened.

You went into this and he let you know how far it was going to go (sex only)

I have a feeling that you are not the only 'love" interest that he has. Women often fall in love with their doctors.

Don't cry because it's over - smile because it happened.

Take your new-found awareness with you and find another man.