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Luzy
 
Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 10:42 am
i just woke up and stared typing my essay my mom comes in and sees mess on the floor and the thing is im always clean my room but then my bro ans sis comes in and jump on the bed throws stuff on the floor.and then she starts screaming at me and i told her i already study and im finishing my last homework on the computer and she starts cursing and screaming and then i tell her to calm down and she hits me and pull my hair ..and i tell her u not letting me hang out so now i cant hav the computer she is being a bitch and her screaming at me is not helping my problem i cut m self alot wen i feel i did something wrong and i dont like people touching me hard...and she makin me want to cut my selfshe dont understand me she dont listen to me..i wanna run away ,,,but i cant i just wanna die cutting myself is like a drug...and she wanna say oh inever let obsitcals get in my way but wat **** im only 13 ...and i dont kno how to handle this she says im always in the computer but thats becuz i was planing the suprise mothers day party 4 her but now she acting like a bicth i just dont kno wat to do any more having this problem and being like this
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Mame
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 10:50 am
@Luzy,
Well, firstly, you could use some punctuation and capitals in your post. It's really hard to read without them. It's one long run-on sentence, Luzy.

As to your problem with your mother, could you talk to your dad? Could you talk to your mother about it calmly when she is in a good mood? Is there a counsellor at your school you could discuss this with?
saab
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 10:57 am
@Luzy,
If you really cut yourself and like to do so you do have some serious problems.
Has your mother not noticed this? If not you better go and see your family doctor and talk to him about it. Cutting yourself is usually a sign of wanting and needing help. Please see your doctor as soon as possible.
Is the computor yours or your mothers?
If it is hers you better find a solution to the problem and see to that both of you have certain hours you can work on it.
If you do your homework on the computor I suggest very seriously that you get a spelling program.
Luzy
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 10:57 am
@Mame,
well srry about the punctions .And no my father...well..i dont no were my father is . the last time my mom talked to him was 3months telling him i got raped by his side of the family.the last time i talk to him was 4 months ago. the counslers dont do nothing.
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Luzy
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 10:59 am
@saab,
im bad speller i know ..the computer is mine .....and ya she knows
saab
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 11:02 am
@Luzy,
You got raped and you cut yourself and your mother knows about it.
It is really serious....
It is too much for you to handle. You really need help.
What about the counselor
Luzy
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 11:08 am
@saab,
if i tell the counsler at school she is going to tell my mom and when i get home i will then get a beating and she will curse at me and say u dont tell my business .....i dont know what to do im just going to run away and maybe kill my self .Im acting crazy here.I just cant take it ..it hurts.
dyslexia
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 11:11 am
@Luzy,
well, that will teach them a lesson they won't forget, but you will be dead so you won't notice
Luzy
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 11:15 am
@dyslexia,
I dont really care anymore , i just want the pain to go away.
Luzy
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 11:29 am
Well thanks ,i think i kno what to do......um ya well this post will get deleted Thanks again
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saab
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 11:45 am
@Luzy,
Does the counselor have the right to tell your mother everything?
I am not sure she does.
There must be some place where you can get help.
Killing yourself it not going to solve the problems and young people should always have a second chance.
Does your city have a counseling for young people? Often they do.
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Ragman
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 12:17 pm
@Luzy,
Drama and being 13 go hand-in-hand. Hoping you keep talking about it with your friends, family or here. Just keep talking about the feelings. This is a stage of life (age 13), but it's very painful as there seems to be some abuse going on. Seek out a counselor at school, friend a relative and tell all. If you really are getting counseling (and not making this up), you have the right to keep information from your mom that could risk your safety. There is protection through your getting counseling.

Don't let your life be ruined. Tell all and keep in touch ...hourly ..if you have to ..so you can get help. this could be the most important thing you can do for yourself.
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Luzy
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 05:18 pm
ayyy i finally did it.I told my mom how i felt again.And i told her that what she did was wrong ...and explain how i felt about it.Also she said sorry. I guess my mom was in a bad mood today.And i got an appointment with the doctors. i guess me and mom will always argue i will just have to wait when she is in a good mood . this is gonna be hard though she has mood swings. but she still dont understand the part of when i cut myself.
sullyfish6
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 07:27 pm
In the meantime - clean your room and limit your time on the computer.

If your mom still goes off the nut about other things, then that's another story. But i have a feeling that your room and computer time is something that has been argued about before.

saab
 
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Reply Sat 1 May, 2010 11:13 pm
@sullyfish6,
when young people cut themselves is a sign of wanting to relief the inner pain.
It is very serious.
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Ragman
 
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Reply Sun 2 May, 2010 09:44 am
@Luzy,
Luzy: Cutters have serious issues. This is a warning sign. You need to stay with counseling. What has been lost here was the rape you wrote about earlier. You mentioned this earlier, but understand that is another serious issue that I hope is discussed in counseling - preferably not online.

When you wrote the following "she starts cursing and screaming and then I tell her to calm down and she hits me and pull my hair ...", that's and indication that things are VERY seriously wrong on HER part. This shows that she can not cope with her emotions and is hurting you.

This behavior is not just a case of always arguing and dealing with her mood swings. It sounds as though from what you write that she might need long-term professional help. It's very assuring to read that you're getting help now.

Her behavior towards your 'rule-breaking' behavior (being online and not doing homework) sound like way overkill. This behavior is damaging and could set a pattern for you and your future relationships with others, including boyfriends or, later on, husbands, should you marry. Being 'appropriately firm' and disciplining properly should never involve hair-pulling, etc.

Understand that saying 'Sorry' is a start to admitting there's a problem, but is not enough ... not even close to enough.

Yes, it's wise to do your homework, limit time on the computer, and stay out of her hair. Understand also, that she has some of her own homework (counseling) to do too.
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littlek
 
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Reply Sun 2 May, 2010 09:51 am
Luzy, see someone at your school. If you have a school psychologist or a school social worker - see them. If not, see a trusted teacher or guidance counselor. Your mom needs help.
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Ragman
 
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Reply Sun 2 May, 2010 09:56 am
@Luzy,
Luzy wrote:

And i got an appointment with the doctors.
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