Affair with Widow

Are you crazy?
You are going to be resented anyway. So how do you think your being married is going to fly with her?
You've got too much baggage to put this on his kids.
IMHO - Mum's the word.

Welcome to A2K. This a helpful forum of every-day people, just like yourself.

I wish you the best with this delicate situation. However, I see no immediate reason to discuss this with her.

Ooops, wait a minute! Hopefully, she'll not find out through the work grapevine, though her potential discovery of the facts could undermine that family's relationship (and theirs with you) in the future. I'm betting you've already thought of that and have some sort of plan of action?

You are a married woman having an affair with a widow and your only question is whether you should approach his daughter? Why not first sit down and talk to your husband? You say you've been unhappy for years but you have somehow managed to stay with him? Why haven't you walked out before now? Tell him you're leaving and then screw around all you want with this other guy. Then maybe approach the daughter. But do something about your husband first.

It should be widowER. A widow is a woman. At first I thought you were a lesbian till I saw the description of the "widow" as a man.

Whatever . . .

Am I getting old or what or just not with it, but dating a MARRIED person is a huge NO-NO with me.

I am now widowed (11 months ) and am back into the dating scene. the FIRST criteria is that the man be NOT married. Everything else flows from there (except smoking, I will NOT even consider a smoker)

What happened to restraint and setting basic standards for getting into a relationship???

I guess I am getting old . . .

Not about getting old, but just that wisdom has a way of sneaking in...for the purpose of self-preservation.

However, I've observed that some people just react (or over-react) to an itch and feel it has to be scratched immediately.