Someone help me out here with the current customs. Once upon a time, you could date multiple people at the same time until you were "going steady". In the 70's, when I would speak to older guys, it seemed like it was common to date several people in a less than serious way until you started to get serious with just one and it was the same for the women. Do teens these days exclusively date from the get-go? Is there such a thing as going steady or is that just assumed?
When my daughter was fifteen she had her first boy/girl birthday party and she invited four girls and five boys so there was an equal number but apparently no couples, all just friends. There was one guy who stood out in terms of attractiveness. I asked her, after everyone left, which girl liked him. She said, 'Charlotte'. I asked which girl he seemed to like, did he like Charlotte back?' She said, 'No, I think he likes me.' And turns out he did because he asked her out. She had told me that she liked him but then when he asked, she didn't go out with him. I asked her why. She said because he cheated on his last girlfriend.
I was like, 'Cheated? How - like sex? When? When he was FOURTEEN?'
She said 'No, not sex mom- kissing.'
And now the poor kid is branded a cheater for the rest of his life.
I didn't get it then, I don't get it now. How can you be committed to someone when you're fourteen years old? And why would you want to be?
To answer your question Engineer, it seems that it's just assumed. Which seems a big mistake to me. These kids are taking things way too seriously, way too soon.