@msolga,
I see no reason for you to change who you are.
You may:
a. Remain the same AND respond to trolls as though they they are reasonable human beings and be continue to be very distressed from time to time.
b. Remain the same and NOT respond to trolls as though they are reasonable human beings.
c. Ignore the smeggers.
I am sorry that you have included me in the ranks of those you seem to believe are blaming you. I don't, I blame the trolls. However, given that they will remain here, I am distressed by your distress, and wish that you would take some steps to limit that distress.
I wish that others who are distressed would do the same. I wish that they were still dealt with by mods, and I found Jes's response to you pretty goddam rude and insensitive and unhelpful.
However, the facts are as they are, and they are, and they are not going to change. I find the nouveau regime distressing at times too, but I accept that it was imposed with great thought, and good will, and is reality based.
What HAS changed is that I will no longer attempt to comment to you upon strategies that I think might be helpful to you, as you clearly consider my comments attacking.
They were not intended as such.