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Thu 23 Oct, 2003 05:21 am
A person see's their friends' partner out at a club with another member of the opposite sex (most probably cheating). Why is it that when this person tells their friend that their partner is cheating on them, the friend gets pissed off at them?
Because at face value the 1st thought that would pop into every1's head is that "well ide like to know if MY partner was cheating on me". But its not like that, the friend always gets pissed off at their friend for telling them.... why?
I kinda get it, but cant quite put this phenomenon into words. Its something like shooting the messenger, wanting to disbelieve it, not liking ya friend hating ya partner....?
Ideas?
I think it is partly annoyance at a touchy subject being brought up without evidence, and also the thought that if it IS true, why couldn't the partner have just been honest? BTW, messengers have always been shot throughout history, sometimes for much less.
A friend of mine told me about my ex cheating on me and I never got mad at him. In fact, I thanked him for telling me.
I also wouldn't just assume my partner was cheating just because he was seen with another female. Now if they were seen kissing or something, then that's a different story.
Montana- Youse a goil. It's the guys who are so protective of their "territory"!
Ohhhhh!!! I hadn't thought of that.
I would get pissed off for the simple reason that the friend was making an assumption and knows nothing of my partners side of the story. Now the reason I would get pissed off at the person she was cheating on me with if that happened would be lack of respect for our relationship. I'm not proud of what i've done in the past but it happened to me and the guy she was cheating on me with got hospitalized and the woman got disowned for life. Cheating is wrong very wrong.
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