My girlfriend is like this too, albeit not as bad with the pure rubbish. She moved in 3 years ago and all her stuff got stacked nicely in my garage, filling it. I expected she would go through box by box sorting what she wanted to keep and toss. What happened was all the boxes got opened simultaneously and you had to swim through random crap just to move. (swim is not an understatement - in places it was neck high).
I have urged her nicely for three years to trash as much of it as she can. The garage is exterior and it has minor leaks so most everything is destroyed. Shes periodically gotten rid of some of it but 2/3 of it is still there. She doesnt work so i cant fathom how she doesnt have the time.
Ive had enough. The three year anniversary of her moving in comes up in a few weeks and this junk has just been moving around from place to place in my house. 1/3 of my basement is filled with junk too because she cant bring herself to toss her kids old toys. I feel bad for the poor kid too - the kid has literally thousands of small bits of old toys in her room and when she has to clean her room its a nightmare!
Does the kid really need that bit of plastic thats the size of your thumb from a now broken and neglected doll she doesnt play with anymore and hasnt since a month after she got it two christmases ago?
I have offered to just do it myself but she insists that she has to go through both the kids room and the garage herself because only she knows what to keep and what to get rid of and it never happens. I am infuriated in that if she spent 5 minutes a week even taking two weeks off per year she would have by now dedicated 13 hours which should have been more than enough to get the whole job done.
Last night i told her im calling a garbage truck to be here in a little over 2 weeks, and told her to get the job done or ill just throw it all out and do the kids room myself. She peaked, said im not a dictator in this house, said she would call the police if i started throwing away her things, it was insane and infuriating. She isnt working so 18 days should be enough notice to get the job done... I could get it done in a day.
What makes matters worse is i used to have roomers living here who netted me $12k a year. She couldnt get along with any of them very well and so i agreed to try to carry the house on my own so we could have the extra space and quiet and save on the bills. The final catalyst was when we were going to be on vacation i offered my cousin to stay in our place so she could save money on hotels when she came into town, and my girlfriend didnt like the idea at all. I was more concerned about security and having someone around as ive been broken into before - with the roomers there was always a few people coming and going.
Plus im choked that now im paying full freight on this place that used to turn me a tidy profit and the basement and garage are unusable as they are half filled with junk from three years ago. Shes moved her hobby stuff into one of the roomers old rooms from the basement and left that which she doesnt want in the basement. Between our bedroom, the kid, and her hobby room, plus the garage shes taking up 3.5 rooms of a 4 bedroom house (leaving one spare room, the messy basement and the kitchen and living room).
I dont know what to do. I think ive been more than reasonable, with 3 years of patience, giving her 18 days notice of the truck, and offering to just do the job myself and chuck it all if she cant bring herself to do it. Plus the poor kid, she is messy like all kids are but it oft takes her 5 hours to clean her room because theres toys she hasnt touched in years with all the little bits. Ive talked to the kid and shes eager to get rid of things in there, the attachment to this junk isnt hers, shes been caught trying to throw her own toys in the garbage when cleaning up. Were even storing 6 full garbage bags of clothes that dont fit her anymore and thats after her brother took what he wanted for his kids.
I dont want to be a dictator but ive got to put my foot down at some point because before she moved in you could eat off my floor and the house was spotless. When i bring this up she says, "well with four guys living in the house its easy to keep the place clean because theres no kid". Im like, "huh?", because youd think you could keep a house clean for the sake of the kid and if shes not working it shouldnt be that hard.