I have a bias against red oak cabinets, left over from my anti seventies stuff bias.. I've wanted to refinish my present ones (lot of work, white or not). I thought of a white semi transparent "wipe" on them. Now that seems eighties cabinet repatriation to me, sort of swedish-izing. I also once redid old cheap cabinets with oil enamel paint (back when that existed) - that was for a "laundry room/cookbook room". It was quite jolly, their being a pleasant sort of greyed aqua in an apricot room.. but clearly a cheapo fix. The house did sell in one day though... (sad to me, since I loved it).
I ended up taking the doors off the top level of my present kitchen cabinets and being immediately happier. The doors had decades of crud on them, hard to remove without ruining the varnish, or at least for me it was.
I might consider, if I were you, Link, staining the cabinets a slightly darker color. But then I would decide not to, they are oak, not walnut, and I'm also biased against faux. So.. if I were you, I'd leave them. Plenty of people like red oak, and I doubt that is a deal breaker.