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3 Sex offenders at the same address ???

 
 
hawkeye10
 
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Thu 24 Sep, 2009 11:30 pm
@ossobuco,
my point is more that if we really think that these guys are dangerous then they should be, would be, under guard someplace. Our justification for treating them badly is demonstratively a lie. We do it because we can get away with it.
OmSigDAVID
 
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Fri 25 Sep, 2009 12:07 am
@hawkeye10,
hawkeye10 wrote:

my point is more that if we really think that these guys are dangerous then they should be, would be, under guard someplace. Our justification for treating them badly is demonstratively a lie. We do it because we can get away with it.
I 'd require them to take their LEAVE, permanently,
but not necessarily guard them anywhere.




David
hawkeye10
 
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Fri 25 Sep, 2009 12:28 am
@OmSigDAVID,
Quote:
I 'd require them to take their LEAVE, permanently,
but not necessarily guard them anywhere


given our crowded planet there is no humane place to go that will have them, as many people have pointed out to you. What you would require then is them being dispatched to heaven/hell. Given that I am not supportive of capital punishment except for extraordinary cases of treason I can not agree with you.
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aidan
 
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Fri 25 Sep, 2009 12:41 am
@hawkeye10,
Quote:
my point is more that if we really think that these guys are dangerous then they should be, would be, under guard someplace. Our justification for treating them badly is demonstratively a lie. We do it because we can get away with it.

No, we do it because we, as a society, don't have the money, time, or knowledge or insight to be able to solve their problem and know what else to do.

I have compassion for these people Hawkeye, because I am aware that a lot of them are like they are for a reason.
But as a mother, I'm like Linkat - I wouldn't want them in my neighborhood or in close proximity to any publicly attended building that any child might have to walk to without adult supervision. It's just asking for trouble. It seems counterintuitive in the extreme to the logic you would hope a community would employ to keep their children safe.

What would you do with these offenders? Would you keep them locked up after they'd served their time and had their therapy? Or would you allow them to live in the house next to the public library or YMCA where your nine year old daughter and her friend loved to go for something like a puppet show?
And if they did - (live next door to the Y that your daughter and her friends attended) would you ever let her walk there and home by herself again?

The answer is not always that people treat people what some would consider badly because they want to. Sometimes it's because they don't know what to do.
But in this case - I'd err on the side of safety and put the needs of the collective children in that neighborhood before the needs of the registered sex offender.
hawkeye10
 
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Fri 25 Sep, 2009 12:59 am
@aidan,
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What would you do with these offenders? Would you keep them locked up after they'd served their time and had their therapy? Or would you allow them to live in the house next to the public library or YMCA where your nine year old daughter and her friend loved to go for something like a puppet show?
And if they did - (live next door to the Y that your daughter and her friends attended) would you ever let her walk there and home by herself again?


I would have then do their time, and then let them try to build a new life, hopefully watch them reform themselves. As for my kids, I would teach them to watch out for themselves, and have a relationship with them were they would speak up to me if anything was wrong.

My kids were sexually abused, by the 15 yo neighbor boy, whose sister was our babysitter. The father of this family was my wife's superior, far removed. You never know, abusing those who previously offended will not on its own end the problem. It would not have helped us, this kid would not have been on any list because he had never been caught.

I feel somewhat good that it was my girl who told me, that all of the other 6 girls that we know about did not tell their parents. It was only after we alerted the police and the investigations were run that the other girls spoke up. One poor girl, who we knew well, was not believed by her parents, because her parents were friends with the perps parents. I hate to think what might have happened to her as she reached her teens, what a horrible betrayal that was.
aidan
 
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Fri 25 Sep, 2009 01:14 am
@hawkeye10,
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My kids were sexually abused, by the 15 yo neighbor boy, whose sister was our babysitter. The father of this family was my wife's superior, far removed. You never know, abusing those who previously offended will not on its own end the problem. It would not have helped us, this kid would not have been on any list because he had never been caught.

I'm sorry to hear that - that your kids were abused.

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I feel somewhat good that it was my girl who told me, that all of the other 6 girls that we know about did not tell their parents. It was only after we alerted the police and the investigations were run that the other girls spoke up. One poor girl, who we knew well, was not believed by her parents, because her parents were friends with the perps parents. I hate to think what might have happened to her as she reached her teens, what a horrible betrayal that was.

Yes - especially in that her parents were only friends and they chose to believe these people over their daughter. I can see not wanting to believe it - and having a difficult time believing it if it were one's child abusing their other child - but to take the word of a friend over your own child on something like that is mind boggling.

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I would have then do their time, and then let them try to build a new life, hopefully watch them reform themselves. As for my kids, I would teach them to watch out for themselves, and have a relationship with them were they would speak up to me if anything was wrong.

Well yeah - and that's how it would work in a perfect world. But it's hard to teach a little girl to be able to watch out and protect herself against predators.
And why should she have to deal with having a KNOWN predator placed there by adults who are supposed to be watching out for her?

Because from what I've read - and seen of addiction - (and NO, I'M NOT SAYING I'VE EXPERIENCED ADDICTION! (Just for the record - I haven't experienced addiction or sexual abuse) but I have read a lot and observed many people who have suffered and this behavior seems addictive (at its core) and I haven't read of any successful treatments for it.

Are there any at this point that you know of that give you hope that these people will be able to reform themselves and form a new life without the constant worry of reoffending?
I'm sincerely interested.
hawkeye10
 
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Fri 25 Sep, 2009 01:40 am
@aidan,
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Because from what I've read - and seen of addiction - (and NO, I'M NOT SAYING I'VE EXPERIENCED ADDICTION! (Just for the record - I haven't experienced addiction or sexual abuse) but I have read a lot and observed many people who have suffered and this behavior seems addictive (at its core) and I haven't read of any successful treatments for it


here again, the claim is that they can never be cured, which has not been proven. But let's say that these guys are miswired and that we can never correct the problem. How is that different from mental illness?? It is not. So if it is true then we need to get all of these cases out of the criminal justice system and into the public health system. If they need to be put away then the collective must pay the tab, which will hopefully give us some incentive to get to the bottom of how sexual function goes so bad, and do something about it.
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Are there any at this point that you know of that give you hope that these people will be able to reform themselves and form a new life without the constant worry of reoffending?
I have watched both abusers and victims come together in BDSM, and in a organized consensual way feed their urges, and work though their kinks. Sex and power play might not be the only cure, but it is the only one that I have seen work. The ones that go through theraphy seem to come out as if they are drugged up zombies, half dead. I don't know of any good therpaies, though I would not write off the approach completely.

Edit: I have heard of good results from religous based approaches, those who can hand themselves off to God can be healed, at least surivors can. Abusers?? WHo knows...

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I'm sorry to hear that - that your kids were abused.
that is kind to say, thank you.
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OCCOM BILL
 
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Fri 25 Sep, 2009 11:01 am
@ossobuco,
ossobuco wrote:

Maybe you and I can come to understanding. I'm well aware of aggravated sexual assault, luckily not personally as a legal term, although I did deal with being raped in a situation no one would think of prosecuting, including me in my lawyerly moments. It changed my life but wasn't a legal matter.

I'm thinking that worldwide there isn't this kind of distinction we have about rape - or am I wrong? I know it's bad news in war (some meeting said so) but how about in relationships? It makes me curl, step back,
but I don't know re others across the earth.
Many cultures find it perfectly permissible for men to treat women as property. Were it possible, I'd like to send all the short-eyed assholes to live in one of them... to live as a woman. Prison is the next best thing.

However, once recidivism rears it's ugly head, and it usually does, whatever residual reservations may exist with regards to guilt-certainty can generally be eliminated, and at that point so too should any possibility of further recidivism.

It is in too many cases the demented gift that keeps on giving, from one generation to the next. Better to end the cycle. Too many of the sick bastards can't be cured, and should therefore be regarded as one would regard a rabid dog. No one wants to see old yeller put down, but it is work that needs to be done.

ossobuco wrote:
Past all that, what to do with these oafs after they have done time?
Live, work and spend leisure time a safe distance from places kids congregate.

ossobuco wrote:
Re the three near the Y, I really don't know. Would be interested in what others think. I am guessing ok, a city has many facilities, do you want to forbid them to all?
Absolutely. I'll vote to protect the safety and innocence of children over the comfort and well being of convicted sickos every time. Were I king, in many cases they’d be wearing GPS enabled anklets (or some less obtrusive, but equally effective device) as a permanent condition of release.

In my opinion, the recidivism of violent aholes (made possible in large part by the relative apathy of society) is most responsible for the creation of more violent aholes. It is the most vicious of all cycles… and one that cannot be effectively altered without prioritizing the protection of innocence far above the perceived fairness in treatment of the guilty.

Btw, I am acutely aware that many criminal proceedings run the risk of convicting the falsely accused. This is no argument against harsher punishments (short of death), because the innocent should be punished not at all… not just less. The false accusation dilemma would be better served with harsher punishments for perpetrators of false accusations. Accusing an innocent of heinous behavior is heinous, and the those who do so should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. False imprisonment is a serious crime, and I see no reason attempted false imprisonment should be treated as any less seriously.

Please, no one misinterpret the above paragraph as a desire to return to the accusatory laws of the dark ages. The State would still have the burden of proof, as the person accused of attempted false imprisonment by false accusation would be presumed innocent until proven guilty beyond a reasonable doubt as well. Predictably, in many events there would be insufficient proof of either. To further pre-empt empty argument; such practice should have relatively little effect on victims coming forward, as the burden of proof for such an offense is a VERY large hurdle indeed. Frankly, I believe this remedy already exists, but also that it is so seldom (or so softly) used that false accusations have become exceedingly common in divorce and domestic violence situations. That being said, I find the position of not properly addressing crime on the account of potential for false accusations (another crime) to be morally bankrupt. It is the fact finder (usually a jury in contested matters) job to separate fact from fiction, and the Judge and/or prosecutors job to address instances of perjury and false allegations.

The idea of legislating a virtual pass for heinous crimes, on account of the perceived difficulty in prosecuting them is as disgusting as it is absurd... yet more than a few apologists for the heinous perps, right here on A2K, have advocated precisely that. These are the people I would most like to see self-select for personal extinction, because they are in all likelihood instrumental in perpetuating the most vicious of cycles themselves.

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Linkat
 
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Fri 25 Sep, 2009 11:12 am
@ossobuco,
Actually "this list" states what the offense was. I do realize that some one caught peeing can be labeled a sex offender and therefore needs to register as one.

However, the individuals I mentioned were all Level 3 - which is the worst offenders and those highly likely to repeat an offense. In 2 or 3 cases - these acts were on children under 14.
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Linkat
 
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Fri 25 Sep, 2009 11:15 am
@ossobuco,
The children attend a camp where they are outside. The library is also a concern as they tend to gather there as well - right outside where they have amble vision of the children's room.

I plan next time I go to the library - just to ask the libranians some questions - not to intergate them as I know it is not their fault, but just to get a feel for how they feel about safety and the riffraff.
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Linkat
 
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Fri 25 Sep, 2009 11:19 am
@aidan,
I agree - you need to put the children's safety first. That is why at the beginning I said I was torn as I realize the need to house these "people". But isn't there something about how close to a school or library? The Y for example has pre-school and kindergarten and aftercare programs.
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dlowan
 
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Sun 27 Sep, 2009 08:27 am
@aidan,
Actually, adolescent sex offender programs have quite a reasonable success rate.

I can't quote the stats because they were given at a recent presentation, and I didn't get the reference paper.
hawkeye10
 
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Sun 27 Sep, 2009 09:37 am
@dlowan,
the success rate for adults would be much better if we did not insist that the definition of success is that they come out the other end prissy politically correct people. Anyone who is sexually kinked for any length of time is probably going to stay kinked, in sexual processing of not sexual actions. Instead of trying to make them "normal" we could work to re channel their sexuality into more healthy directions. We could have a lot of success in reforming them from transgressions upon children and non consensual adults if we were willing to tolerate otherwise deviant sexuality.

We demand the whole enchilada, so we more often than not get nothing, because we the collective are unreasonable.
CalamityJane
 
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Sun 27 Sep, 2009 10:07 am
@hawkeye10,
hawkeye10 wrote:

We could have a lot of success in reforming them from transgressions upon children and non consensual adults if we were willing to tolerate otherwise deviant sexuality.


You are definitely one sick puppy! There is no tolerance for sex offenders, period!
dlowan
 
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Sun 27 Sep, 2009 10:21 am
@hawkeye10,
Oh do define exactly what you mean by "otherwise deviant sexuality."

And please, in exactitude, define what "the collective" does not allow that you recommend.
dlowan
 
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Sun 27 Sep, 2009 10:35 am
@dlowan,
Or...is this just child porn repeat?

if so, kindly spare us...you lost that one thoroughly in a previous exhibition of yourself.
hawkeye10
 
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Sun 27 Sep, 2009 10:36 am
@CalamityJane,
Quote:

You are definitely one sick puppy! There is no tolerance for sex offenders, period!


OK, and how is our zero tolerance working out for us? We have more sexual offenders running around than we can shake a stick at, we can't tell which ones are in need of watching and which one aren't because we throw so many in the class that it is impossible to know, they are usually not grounded or productive because we deprive them of any chance of rebuilding a life. And we have done NOTHING to slow down the supply of sexual offenders...they just keep comming, no end in sight. Great plan!

Secondly, what make sexual offenses so special that individuals who commit them are wasted life, scum as idiot Bill keeps yapping about? Why don't they get to do their time and then try again...we even let those who kill do that. It makes no sense, in my opinion it can not be justified even on irrational grounds. Why are they not allowed the chance of redemption? Who the **** do you think you are that you think that you have the right to deny a whole class of offenders the chance to redeem their lives, after they have served the penalty decided upon by the collective through justice system?

You are one cold woman.
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JPB
 
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Sun 27 Sep, 2009 10:39 am
@dlowan,
A good NYT article on the subject of adolescent sex offenders How Can You Distinguish a Budding Pedophile From a Kid With Real Boundary Problems?
hawkeye10
 
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Sun 27 Sep, 2009 10:43 am
@dlowan,
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Oh do define exactly what you mean by "otherwise deviant sexuality


that would be anything. For instance your people would take an offender and teach them how they might use porn and BDSM to satisfy their needs, and you would tell them that as long as they are getting their fix fed by consensual interactions with adults then they are model citizens and have nothing to worry about from the law or the public health system.
DrewDad
 
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Sun 27 Sep, 2009 10:46 am
@hawkeye10,
Fetishes are not interchangeable.

I'm having a hard time taking you seriously.
 

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